Not want to be a complainer anymore - please be kind

[Anonymous311264]

I’ve done a lot of soul searching over past few months and came to the conclusion that maybe I am a serial complainer and just very negative to be around. I decided to put a smile on my face and not be so negative anymore. I woke up very determined and positive today, I actually felt like a different person! but I feel deflated as I’ve had an awful day. How would a “normal” person react the the following and why do I seem to always attract bad luck?

In morning went shopping like I always do but my card got declined - there WAS money in account but bank put a block on due to unusual activity (there was none, we sorted it out when I returned). I had no cash so had to just leave without taking any food home.

Something else happened when I was at home - rather not post about it.

Went to get DS from school and school gave me letter that he didn’t get flu vaccination as no consent form was given. I showed school the form I filled in as I got a confirmation email as did online. They said nothing they can do. Told me to ring number on letter. Got home and DS told me he did get the vaccination (he wouldn’t make it up!). Been phoning the helpline number and they keep saying no he didn’t get it done as there was no consent form. In the end they even saw I sent it as I told them exact time and date I completed it. They still reiterated that no shot was given to him today.

I know in writing it down it doesn’t seem like much but I have many days like today and I feel drained - obviously not the exact same thing happens everyday but little issues always crop up. How can I start having better days? I don’t want to be in this negative state all the time. Did anyone find any solutions to stop feeling so deflated and crap and stop complaining. Please be kind.

The school have absolutely nothing to do with paperwork/organisation or administering of flu vaccines. The teacher would have no idea who has or hasn't had it.

When my daughter gets the spray from school they put a little bit of paper in her school bag with the batch number on...maybe check his bag?

Oh I moan like fuck about most things. 😂You're doing ok OP.Those things would piss most people off let alone with very young children. Be a bit kinder to yourself

Tomorrow is a new day! hope it goes better for you OP! I think we are all so busy these days that little things can really ruin your day, even though they probably shouldn’t. I try to be thankful for the things I have, just basic things like running water, food, a warm, clean home etc. Try and snap myself out of any grumpy/moody thoughts!

A simple thing I do is to make a conscious note of all the little things that go right in a typical day, rather than focusing on what goes wrong. Doesn’t mean I don’t get annoyed or upset by annoying or upsetting things, but it does mean that I generally notice and remember more good things than bad, and feel more positive overall.

I also would have been upset about the card decline, because it's not just inconvenient, it's a bit embarrassing too.

Both the card thing and the flu are examples of bureaucratic systems outside your control letting you down, being a bit of an amateur psychologist here, I wonder if these things get to you because you feel powerless? Are there other situations in your life that make you feel powerless - baby not sleeping, health problems etc? It may be that the relatively minor issues like the flu jab are stirring up deeper feelings of powerlessness because of other situations in your life?

Final thought, I wouldn't worry too much about the flu jab, as if the rest of the school have had it he is unlikely to catch it anyway.

@DaddysGirlForLife

Ask your son if it was one nostril or two... you'll soon find out the truth.

Big hugs. We all have bad days. Hopefully you'll have better days soon!

No - ask him which arm. If he tells you an arm you know he is confused and probably didn't have it. if he says it was his nostrils you still won't know I'm afraid.

The kind of day you had I wouldn’t even call a bad day. A couple of minor inconveniences in the day and that’s it.

I would of just sorted the bank and if I had no food either got something in for a few days or a takeaway tonight. I have multiple cards on Apple Pay though so would of just switched cards and transferred the money across.

to be honest if my child said they had the vaccine then I would of just took their word for it and I wouldn’t give another one just because the school said he didn’t.

I’m very chilled though and not a lot bothers me.

OP you're not a negative person you are lovely very positive in your responses.
Today's a better day.
Sort out his flu shot.
This is a crazy time it takes the smallest thing to knock us off our feet.
Sending big bright smiles to you for today. 🙂