To NOT be out of my mind with worry if DD (12) needs to self isolate? Friend seems to think so..

[BoozyHotChocolate]

Hi,

My DD was sent home last week along with a few other students, as they'd been in close contact with a student who tested positive for COVID.

Obviously this isn't ideal, but in all honesty, I haven't really been worrying as such. I worry about her missing out on two weeks of school, but not the actual virus itself. Well, of course I'm a little concerned, but I'm aware of the statistics etc, so am keeping myself calm reminding myself of those.

Anyway, I told my friend about it and her initial response was "oh my god! You must be utterly terrified?! I'm so so sorry". I replied I was actually ok and that, touch wood, DD was showing no symptoms.

Since then, I get daily messages of doom from this friend, generally consisting of "I don't know how you're so calm. I'd be a complete nervous wreck".

Genuinely starting to get pissed off now tbh. She hasn't lost anyone to COVID, she's not on the front line. I don't really know where it's coming from, but I am starting to wonder if it's actually me...

Would most parents be out of their minds with worry under the same circumstances?

My 2 year old is isolating as his bestie at nursery has tested positive. I haven't been worried in the slightest, just a bit irritated by the inconvenience.

Oh goodness, Phyllis, are you getting help for your anxiety?
Is the only appropriate reply, surely.

Since then, I get daily messages of doom from this friend, generally consisting of "I don't know how you're so calm. I'd be a complete nervous wreck".

Has she specified what she thinks you should be "terrified" about?

She won't be happy until she has worked you up to the same pitch of melodrama.

Everyone I know in has been driven slightly loopy by the virus in one way or another

I don’t have time for those who insist on making what could be achieved safely and legally into something inconvenient, ridiculous and hard work.

Me - before lock down - hey friend how are you, long time no see, fancy a coffee and a natter? Happy to have you here any time you’re free

Her - yes, what about the (cramped cafe) near school? Unless you can think of somewhere more welcoming?

(Background: school car park is a renowned traffic war zone sooo many completely inattentive drivers. And the cafe is always packed.)

Me: won’t it be packed as usual, not keen on that tbh, way more space here!

Her: I was thinking of the outside area

Me: it’s like 4c next week, my Lounge is bigger than the whole cafe, you’re more than welcome here

Her: no reply for a day or so (completely in keeping and totally usual)

So then I had a meeting put in my diary, so I cancelled it.

Won’t be rescheduling it any time soon either.

Will confess to my own loopy moments too, but not on the scale I’m seeing

Another friend of mine had a friend of hers insisting on placing barriers in the garden to stop kids getting too close, then on another occasion not allowing little kid to just bathroom under any circumstance

Poor little one had an accident

I was raving on behalf of friend!

I HATE what this virus has done to our country

I'd understand if she was feeling that way and HER child was isolating due to contact with a positive case because we all respond differently to pressure.

Endless dramatic messages about your child make her sound like a drama llama or an emotional vampire.

Your doing her a favour by texting back calmly, as u sound like you're doing