So last night me and DP ended in a heated debate about whether the washing up can be left on the draining board, or if it should be dried straight away.
He thinks leaving it to drain leaves water marks on them and these are dirty. He gave an example of finding water marks on cutlery in a restaurant and you’d complain they were dirty. I said that it’s different at home when it’s just us, to which he said there isn’t a ‘restaurant dirty’ and ‘home dirty’, it’s either dirty or it’s not.
I do dry up when we wash up together. But if I’m home on my own with my 3 year old, I sometimes wash up after lunch and leave it to drain. I hate drying (not allowed to wash up when DP is around because it makes my eczema worse), and the last thing I want to do is spend half an hour (exaggeration) at the end of the day drying up, so i do some half way through the day.
The particular event that caused this debate, was I’d come home from a 12 hour shift, and I was back in the next day for another 12 hour shift. So i came home, cooked myself something for lunch for the next day, washed up and went in the shower while it drained. He had already done most of the washing up, it was just my washing from cooking that was there. Then, when I was ready for bed, I quickly finished drying it and put it all away. He said this makes them dirty again because they get water marks on them. I said ‘is there anything wrong with trying to take off a few minutes from my jobs between shifts, so I can have an early night?’ He said yes! I get up at 4:45 when I’m working so try to go to bed early.
So please mners, give me your thoughts on whether I was BU or not?