To not expect my mum to wear a mask for childcare

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I'm due to go back to work from mat leave soon and my mum will be having ds on the days both me and my partner are at work, my partner has requested she wear a mask when she holds ds, aibu to think asking my mum to wear a mask in her own home all day is a bit daft? Or would you do the same

Nope I would not expect that at all

Hell no. Seeing facial expressions is important for babies and young children.

Absolutely not. I don’t think any care giver of babies or small children should be in masks 24/7. If she’d requested it to feel comfortable then that’s one thing but your parter asking it if her when she’s doing you a massive favour is not that reasonableness

Wouldn't your DS be scared if she wore a mask ?

Don’t be daft....

No, I'd not ask her to wear a mask especially as it's in her own home, not surrounded by lots of other people & I presume, your mum will be taking extra care with who she comes in contact with etc if she's planning on being responsible for childcare.

Nursery teachers wouldn't wear a mask either.

If she's holding DS, the face covering is not going to be doing much.

@Redshoeblueshoe well before lockdown he was used to seeing her in a mask when we where out and about together so I don't think he'd be scared as such, just less likely to interpret her expressions I suppose

No I would not ask her to wear a mask, I’m assuming that you are not paying her so you are being massively unreasonable to dictate what goes in someone else’s house when she is doing you a favour.

I agree I think it's a bit daft I don't really know what my partners logic is behind it haha

No of course she shouldn't wear a mask if she's looking after him.
I mean teachers and nursery workers don't wear masks do they so she shouldn't have to

No, that’s ridiculous. Does he think nursery staff wear masks?

I don’t really follow the logic as if he’s spending the day being held by her and in her home then if she had any illness it would be passed onto him anyway

@AnneLovesGilbert I think he must do

So ask him what his logic is. If he is out at work, should he not then be wearing a mask at home if that’s his logic?

No our nanny does not wear a mask.

Yes I agree, I don't think he's being funny about it it was more of a suggestion I think he's just a bit paranoid bless him, thanks everyone

Tell him the alternative is he does to nursery where all the staff certainly won't be wearing masks (except possibly at drop off time) and there will be children from many different households not socially distancing and sharing the space and equipment.

He's a baby, she'll be holding him all day. What is a mask going to do?

So what did you say to him?

If he has a problem then he can sort childcare. It's that simple.

I think its quite unreasonable!

One thing to wear a mask when holding a newborn grandchild for a few moments (for example) but quite another to expect someone to all day when providing childcare

how rediculous.NO

nursery and schools dont. I fully support this and my children are as safe as they can be

No.

There’s no point in terms of protecting your son as it won’t! It’s also completely unreasonable and rude to expect her to wear a mask in her own home or when she’s doing you such a massive favour.

Your partner is behaving like a colossal idiot.