Do you have the tv on in the background all day when you are home ?

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I don't and my DH says I'm weird as whenever he gets home he puts the tv straight on.

So I'm at home with our nearly one year old all day. DH says I'm the only mum who doesn't watch daytime tv in the background whilst playing/looking after DD.

I didn't have the TV on with my older DS either, although he had daily some tv time everyday once he could focus on it (so from 18 months onward maybe.) My DS had a speech delay and my DH says it because the house is so quiet due to no TV. I of course I do talk to the kids. I do however look at my phone for texts and MN a bit , but try not to all the time, so I guess that's the modern reading a book whilst looking after the kids. He could be right that I'm unusual. I suppose I've never thought to have the tv on and only put it on for the kids to watch stuff. I hadn't considered having bargain hunt on whilst playing cars. Maybe I'll try it for lockdown 2, instead of going out and having occasional company.

I didn't have the TV or radio on all day when my kids were young. I didn't wear sunglasses so they could see the expressions in my eyes. How would they learn to speak and pay attention properly.

However they are not very musical and that might be my fault.

Now they are grown up I do what I want.

Yes - usually Schitts Creek

I think that it just depends on what you are used to. I enjoy silence so never put on the radio or TV unless I actually want to listen/watch something specific. I would never choose to work with background noise either. Your DH's comments that your DS's speech delay was to do with the TV not being on is bizarre. How does he think that people learned to speak before TV?

@SleepingStandingUp

Those that like silence to concentrate, how noisy is it inside your head?

Very!

I don’t have the television on all the time. The thought of daytime TV being on in the background constantly is horrible! I usually watch some YouTube videos and sitcoms when it suits me and turn it off for the rest of the time. I love peace and quiet.

I think your DH is very wrong to suggest your child’s speech issue was caused by not having television on - that’s ridiculous! He is being quite bullheaded to assume that everybody has TV on all day just because that’s his preference.

An apology.

Yesterday I posted on this thread and used a word that could be (and obviously was) construed as offensive. I did not intend it in this way and the post has, quite rightly, been deleted.

What I intended to convey was that the OPs DH seemed to think their DC's development would be harmed if not exposed to daytime TV and I thought this was ridiculous as humans have managed for thousands of years without TV.

I did not intend any slur on the OP or her DC's and apologise unreservedly if that's how I came across.

Sorry for being a twat .

lovepickled

That's interesting. I was thinking mainly of a younger age group.

@Hardbackwriter what happens if I say think about what you want for Christmas? Or what your tree will look like?

I usually have Netflix on in the background but I don't watch daytime tv (not being a tv snob, I just don't enjoy it). I don't think it's abnormal and I also don't understand the need for constant noise. I love the quiet when the kids are at school/Pre-school

@eng306060 yeah I was a toddler when my grandparents recorded these japanese kids tv programs lol. I guess one key things though my parents were all very strict that the tv that was on was all educational. My dad was 100% t-total whereas my mum might let me watch the disney channel for an hour or two once I was older

God, no.

So many people do this, as though the world might end if they don't have constant noise around them wherever they go.

I prefer the sound of my own Tinnitus to that.

Not all the time because apparently it's not great for my very special 4K tv, but I do like background noise so generally do have it on.

Nope. I love the silence (unless radio is on when I'm cooking or cleaning). TV goes on when DC get home and is on most of evening. I don't watch it myself until 9pm when DS1 goes to bed.

No but I have the radio on

Your DS most definitely does not have speech delay due to no TV, what an ignorant and ridiculous suggestion. He'd be much more likely to be badly affected by constant background sound interfering with focus on what real people are saying to him.
I'd have no patience with your 'D' H, he sounds like a twat.
Never have the TV on unless I'm watching something specific.

@MitziK of course the world would not end but 'silence' does put me under a lot of stress and puts me in a hyper alert mode causing me to be very highly strung by noises such a as clock ticking, licking, breathing etc

Yes, I have it on for background noise and company, I’ve been living a very lonely and isolated life since COVID started, it helps a lot.

[quote lovepickledlimes]@MitziK of course the world would not end but 'silence' does put me under a lot of stress and puts me in a hyper alert mode causing me to be very highly strung by noises such a as clock ticking, licking, breathing etc[/quote]
Meditation may help you with that.

It worked to some extent for DP, at any rate.

No as I don't like it and it seems to teach kids to ignore it or other stimuli since they have to get used to blocking it out. Friends' kids who always have TV on have more trouble concentrating (particularly on eating food or actually watching TV programmes).

@MitziK there is nothing wrong with tv on in the background though that's the thing

I think constant use of phones also affects dc and their learning unfortunately

[quote lovepickledlimes]@MitziK there is nothing wrong with tv on in the background though that's the thing[/quote]
But it's potentially a problem if you are in a position where there isn't a handy TV. Or there are other people to consider who don't feel the noise, movement and flickering light is relaxing, but is effectively a constant assault upon their senses, or who have difficulties in hearing/concentration in such conditions.

I can (and do) wear ear filters whenever possible so that DP can make as much noise as possible with TV, laptop and something going on his phone all within 10 foot of one another, but it's not possible all the time.

@MitziK but this thread is about TV on all day in the background. If I go out I put my headphones on, if people want my full attention to talk again no problem as I would be having a conversation etc. It does not need to be the tv. The tv just happenes for me to be the least distracting one

I hate silence so I usually have YouTube videos like true crime playing on my phone which I can pause if I need to concentrate. I also need noise to sleep otherwise I get bored just lying there (ADHD sufferer)

I was reading a great article at work today, written by Speech Therapists, listing all the reasons why it is so bad for young children to have TV on in the background all day.
How I wish I'd saved it now. Could kick myself.
Think it was published by The Hanen Centre (who know a LOT about speech development).

I find it incredibly hard to believe, as one poster put that she had heard from a SaLT that it was good to have the TV on all day. It really, really, really isn't.
I mean - as adults, I totally respect everyone's right to do whatever they choose as long as it isn't harming anyone else, but it really isn't good for young children (and ot just their expressive language)