Ok I know this is pathetic, but when a friend doesn’t like your posts but likes others

[Lardlizard]

I know it’s needy and pathetic, but normally if someone didn’t like my stuff I’d think of maybe they’ve not been on fb etc

But one of my friends hasn't liked any of my stuff for ages
Yet I know she still must like me because she’s always messaging me on what’s app and asking to get together etc

My posts are only very tame like the kids pumpkins etc
And a couple of half term activities

Yet I see her liking and commenting on other people’s posts basically the same sort of posts as mine and I think why do you ignore mine ?
Esp when she comments and likes people’s things of people I know she’s actually not that keen on in real life

I guess there’s a chance she might not see mine
I don’t know how the algorithm works

But I’ve now stopped liking hers too

She has unfollowed you.
Leave social media, it is not good for you.

@Lardlizard

End of the day it boils down to two options She’s not seeing me Or she’s choosing to ignore

Simple as that

But she’s not choosing to ignore you, given that she messages you almost daily outside of FB.

But instead you’re going to unfollow her? That’s just creating drama where there is literally no drama. Facebook does not equal real life. The likes on your post isn’t real validation.

I know a few people who never like others posts - they're also the biggest bitches - I imagine it looks two faced to those you've been gossiping with to then be seen to like the persons posts. I admit to having not liked someones post (despite generally liking the person) for this reason when I've just had a bit of a bitch with a mutual friend about the type of things the person shares. Could your friend be talking about you behind your back? She might really like you but feel grated by something specific that you do.

A friend who was seriously depressed a few years back said later (after he'd got to the point of nearly doing something permanent) that his final trigger was when, at his lowest, not one person on FB had acknowledged his 'trying to sound OKish but reach out' posts whilst they had responded to other people's posts - the reason was that FB had dropped him off our feeds, so we didn't see his posts asking if anybody fancied meeting up for a chat or that he was bored/not seen anybody for weeks/needed some human interaction beyond the bloke in the corner shop.

Don't use SM to gauge how much somebody likes or cares about you. It's the most harmful thing about the entire phenomenon.

Your friend keeps in contact with you directly - so she cares. She isn't only prompted to do so when something pops up in her feed and it isn't pushed out by a thousand adverts for a change.

I have around 300 friends on Facebook - I pretty much only see posts from the same three people. The rest of my feed is made of ads and pages I’m following.

I have to ask - how old are you OP? This post shows an over reliance on the validation of others, you might benefit from a social media break.

Have you thought about asking her directly?

@Lardlizard

Because I don’t want to be arsed to send her a private what’s app As it’s making me feel she’s she’s ignoring me or begrudging Me somehow

Also I’m not going to stop interacting with other in there just because she’s either not seeing my stuff or choosing to ignore it

I might unfollow her for a while though, 30 days maybe

Ok just read this, and now I’ve come to the conclusion that, with the greatest respect, this is pathetic.

Well I’ve unfollowed her now, couldn’t see an option to do it for 30 days so I’ve just done it now

One time I did ask her don’t you ever see my stuff and she replied that’s she’s not been on there much
Which is totally untrue and it shows when other people are on there and she is always on there

Anyway I’m not missing out on the other good stuff because of this one person
Out of sight out of mind

I just feel a bit mean not liking any of her stuff so if I don’t see it in won’t have to feel guilty

I totally agree it is pathetic

Imagine being so immature and unsecured you would be dropping a friend because they don't like your posts on facebook (which is as number of us pointed out most likely due to algorithm) while they still text with you and are friends irl
I had some sympathy, but the way you are going is indeed needy and pathetic.

I am now seeing what people mean by sm being bad...

Only thing I think she can get jealous of is people that are financially comfortable
Which I certainly don’t flaunt

Well I’ve unfollowed her now so💁🏻‍♀️

I had a 'friend' like this. Well, actually she's the most toxic person I know.
She asked me why I never liked any of her posts on Instagram. I answered because I didn't like her posts therefore I'm not going to like it.
She belittled me for years and only just come to the realisation of how she was (stupid I know). I just can't stand her anymore. Of course she doesn't like the fact I also stand up to her now and the fact I don't like her posts.

I totally agree it’s needy pathetic and childish
I said that right from the off and haven’t changed my view of

Fb is weird. It shows me endless pictures of kittens but I only see posts from about half my friends, for the other friends I have to keep popping into their home profile to see if they’ve added anything nee. So annoying. Fb doesn’t care if we see friends posts or not they only care about advertising 😡

I just don't get the fascination of likes. Does it really matter that I didn't double tap my thumb or finger for a heart to appear on your post.
I just don't get it.

You do know that people only see about 4% of what is posted. If she has a lot of friends on FB she probably isn’t seeing your posts.

Eat the ham, there’s a mum at school, she’s so miserable, like a dementor and v two faced
I used to smile and give her the time of the day, in hummering her type way
Anyway the other day she was actually waiting for me, saw me and waited for me to get to the same point as her, I just said hello Ina rushed type way and carried on walking Fast !
She seemed so shocked
But I’ve got to the point I’m past humouring some idiots

@Lardlizard Are you talking about Instagram or Facebook?

Sounds like insta, but don't you think it's childish to just unfollow her it looks like you're dong it for attention also did you ever think that perhaps what you're posting just might not be interesting enough for her to like it?
Anyways with everything that's going on now people have bigger problems is she ok?

You don't need to be liked on FB.
Focus on your real life friends. Treat FB as a news feed or a place to dip into if you must.
I abandoned FB a few years ago and it means nothing to me now.
I still have friends and my family think nothing of my withdrawal.
The positives are that I no longer have to endure the MLM brigade and I no longer feel the need to like the 47 ( yes!) posts of a new baby taken in one day.
It's quite liberating actually!

Hmm am starting to see a common theme.

I know what you mean, I get annoyed because the minute BIL posts pics of my niece or them on family days out, FIL instantly likes and comments, but he never ever likes anything we put up or pics of DD. I know he sees our posts because of the things he says, like he saw we did such and such. There's a lot of favouritism going on there though so that's probably why. Other than that it doesn't bother me, I never notice who else likes things I post but that is just so obvious.

Possibilities: Frenemy as PP says she has probably bad-mouthed you to other people and doesn't want them to her liking your posts.She likes you but sees you as competition so doesn't like your posts due to this competitive streak. She has a million friends and really isn't interested in looking you up as she sees you all the time(unlikely)

I am not on FB anymore.

I do wonder what message this sends to our children if we feel and behave like this as parents.
How will they learn how to manage Social Media.