Hello everyone
Can I have some confirmation that what I’m feeling isn’t out of order?
Live with DP, have a three year old and a 6 month old - boys.
DP works 5 days a week and has sat and sun off most of the time (occasionally works sat til 1pm). I work 2 days a week and also am doing a degree so am out the house the same amount of time as him. It seems that although we are both out working/studying for the whole week, everything at home is my job. I do all the cleaning, laundry, running the children around to childcare and looking after them while they’re at home, ironing clothes for nursery, packing bags for them, making beds, etc. All in between also independently learning at home. DP comes home from work and sits on the sofa. All night. Everything I do gets undone within minutes - for example if I wipe the counter tops there will be crumbs straight away, if I mop the floor he will tread dirt through the house straight away, if I tidy things into draws he’ll get them out straight away. He’ll dump his whole sock draw out onto the dresser to find the pair he wants and just leave them. I clean the bathroom and he immediately has to go for a poo. Etc.
TODAY he is not working, I’ve been running around like a blue arsed fly cleaning and tidying the house as I had a deadline and work over the weekend so haven’t had a chance. Whilst I was cleaning the floors the baby started crying for milk and he’s just sat there watching tv. Asked if he is going to sort him out and he said he’s had enough and he’s tired?? All he has done is sit down all morning. I said this and he shhed me and said stop acting hard done by! Occasionally he will feed the baby but does this by putting him in his bouncer and propping the bottle up on a blanket - couldn’t bear to actually feed him himself.
He has also got the hump because I won’t sit down and be lazy with him - he thinks we shouldn’t worry about the house being tidy and should just relax but I can’t live in a messy house so he is sat there saying I’m being horrible to him.
I’m absolutely exasperated - I feel like I don’t even want to be near this man anymore!