To be annoyed at DH doing this tomorrow

[Dinosaur01]

DH has been invited out for work drinks all afternoon tomorrow. Meeting in a pub with at least 9 others (2 separate tables) obviously not going to be sensible with distancing when they’re drunk. Isn’t this breaking the rules? It’s got my back up a bit as we have a young child and I’m pregnant so feel like he’s unnecessarily breaking the rules and putting everyone at risk. Happy to be told IABU and miserable!

If the pub are following the rules then they’ll be keeping a close eye .
If they start breaking rules then they’ll most likely be asked to leave ..hopefully .
It’s is risky of your dh and somewhat selfish .

That’s what I was hoping but I honestly can’t imagine the pub workers constantly watching and telling them all to keep their distance. It just seems like unnecessary risk at the moment!

Has he booked a table, everywhere around me is closing early from yesterday I guess as there will be power drinking on mass.

All the pubs around here constantly keep their eyes on the customers. It’s table service only anyway so barring toilet runs or cigs outside everyone stays sat down anyway.

Yeah they’ve booked tables. Hopefully the pub will keep them in check. It seems like such a pointless rule of 6 when large groups can congregate on separate tables!!

Ime the tables will be at opposite ends of the pub!!
My ds works in hospitality and he says this is standard!!

• Ime the tables will be at opposite ends of the pub!! My ds works in hospitality and he says this is standard!!*

I’m defo being mean now but that would be hilarious 🤣

What kind of job does he do? Is he in close proximity to these people usually?

If so I don't think your risk is that much higher to be honest.

If they hardly ever see each other and now they're wanting to sit shoulder to shoulder then I'd see that as unnecessary risk.

Can they ask to be seated outside? Or make sure there's an empty chair between them?

I doubt many places mind so much. Money for them..tables are spaced out so no different to being next to another group.

We had a table of 8 booked just before the rule came in so they just asked for another name and separated the tables.

Couchbettato it’s an office based role but he has been wfh solidly since March. I understand he needs a break but just seems a little excessive

I should also add that most/if not all of the people he’s going with have been doing a mixture of wfh and working in the office. DH is the only one who’s been home every single day since the first lockdown.

Aren’t work meetings exempt from rule of 6? I think they are.

but it's a piss up, not a meeting

@Callipygion

Aren’t work meetings exempt from rule of 6? I think they are.

Stretching the definition of 'meeting' there!

@Callipygion

Aren’t work meetings exempt from rule of 6? I think they are.

Maybe work meetings, I don't know. But certainly not piss ups at the pub with people you just happen to work with!!

@Dinosaur01

• your husband is an idiot. hopefully the pub with thwart theur stupid plan. But I suppose they might then go to someone's house.

Does he not understand we are having to lock down because COVID is rising absolutely everywhere. WTF does he want to risk getting it it giving it to you. Idiot.

Yes it’s not a meeting at all, they’ve booked the afternoon off and are having a ‘last piss up’, don’t know why it’s so urgent, the pubs will only be closed a month ffs.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants I agree! I don’t think he would go back to someone’s house but once they’ve had a drink who knows 🙄 if that were to happen I’d likely tell him to stay somewhere else for the quarantine period until he can return home

the pubs will only be closed a month ffs

Not in some areas. And we don't know which.

I think the pubs will have to be extra vigilant tomorrow. There'll be a lot doing what your husband's team are doing. Did he have any say in it being arranged, or was he just invited along?

What's his attitude when you tell him you're uncomfortable about it?

My Ex told me that he was going to a friend's celebration at a pub. It's very high-risk. He said it was fine because it was under 10 people. Ironically, a coworker of his caught covid from a bartender at his local pub. It caused a lot of problems at work. It's stupid, but they think it won't happen to them. No matter what precautions they should take, once the beer starts flowing they soon forget.

Eckhart he was just invited along, he’s rarely the one to actually make plans! He understand my concerns but also doesn’t want to miss out (like a 5 year old). He says he’ll keep his distance, be sensible etc. I’ve told him ‘sensible’ only works so much if the person sitting next to him or serving his food and drinks has it.

This would piss me right off and why we really didn't need so much notice of going into another lockdown.

Loads of people are out frantically Xmas shopping, seeing people, getting pissed and buying all the fucking tins again!!

Honestly, at this point I just think most people are arseholes!

Oh god leave him be! He wants abit of down time with his mates its not crime of the century

I’ve told him ‘sensible’ only works so much if the person sitting next to him or serving his food and drinks has it

That's true but it's a bit like 'drive carefully'; you could still be the victim of some prat, but it's still worth being careful yourself.

You say in your OP that he's unnecessarily breaking the rules, but he's not, is he? He's saying he's going to stick to the rules.

If they just go to the pub in a group of 6 & follow the rules, they should be fine.

You’re assuming all sorts of other things which may not occur. My DH has just left to go to the pub this pm, probably his first ever time on a Tuesday afternoon but I trust him to be sensible and stick to the rules.

@Dinosaur01

That’s what I was hoping but I honestly can’t imagine the pub workers constantly watching and telling them all to keep their distance. It just seems like unnecessary risk at the moment!

They really shouldn't need to be told, Dinosaur, it is up to each individual to maintain distance. Maybe your husband has to show his face and will not stay long. If he is usually careful, trust him; if he is irresponsible make him isolate from you and the children for however long is recommended.

I 'get' that social occasions are sometimes necessary at work but not the drinking all afternoon. Hopefully he won't have too much.

Pubs are being very arsey about the "same household" rule around here (London) so they may well be sent away when it's clear they don't live together.