To be annoyed that partner does walk dog

[Opinionator]

We have a 3 month old DC together and ever since DC was born DP has walked our dog 2/3 times alone. Any time the dog is walked it's either me doing it alone, or all of us together after I've asked DP to come with us. Never does he take initiative and decides to walk the dog without me, therefore the responsibility falls on me constantly.

I'm on maternity and DP is WFH, but never has any actual work to do, so it's not like that's stopping him. I've mentioned to him several times that he needs to help me out and walk the dog. He either gets annoyed at me and reminds me that when I was pregnant he had to walk the dog all the time (he's a staffie and too strong for any pregnant woman to be walking), or he says he'll do it and never does.

I'm genuinely at the end of my tether! Any advice?

Get a new husband.
No real advice I’m afraid, I’m in the same situation and actually getting bored of asking him!

It's exhausting, isn't it? Genuinely considered rehoming the poor dog because I'm busy with DC and don't get to walk the poor pup enough! He deserves so much better.

Te dp either he walks dog every morning or night or your rehoming him. (The dog not dp, though tempting idea

It's annoying, but tbh it's good to get out with the baby, and if you out baby in a sling, then it's some fresh air for both of you. He can do the same, and then it gives you a break.

He can do the same, and then it gives you a break

You may be missing the point.

OP you say you've mentioned it to him. He seems to think that now your child has been born, it's your responsibility to walk the dog. This makes no sense. Does he understand how strongly you feel about this? Does he want to keep the dog?

I’d go one step further and ask him to walk the dog and take the baby in a sling. Then you can have some alone time to rest at home for an hour.

Does he pull his weight in other ways? I see walking a dog as a pleasure, not a chore but if the majority of the childcare and domestic stuff is falling to you then I'd understand why you are annoyed.

He also doesn't sound very caring, resenting the fact he had to walk the dog when you were pregnant.

@Waveysnail

Te dp either he walks dog every morning or night or your rehoming him. (The dog not dp, though tempting idea

I think rehoming her DP sounds like the better option.

Whose dog is it?

Genuinely shared or his or yours?

Would a rota work, so he could see that the task was shared fairly?

I agree, there's not much point in having a dog if walking it is always seen as a chore. Of course there will be times when it's pissing down with rain and you're knackered or ill and don't want to do it, but by and large it should be a pleasure or at the very least, an accepted and neutral part of your routine.

Our dog died a few months ago and we still sometimes make a move to walk him at what were his usual walk times before remembering he's no longer here It's part of having a dog and if you're too busy and your husband can't be bothered, I do think rehoming the dog would be the fairest thing to do.

Leave baby with dp whilst you walk the dog.

In fact, get up once baby starts waking, take dog out and ^tell dp, “you can see to baby, nappy, bottle, breakfast etc. I’ll be home in an hour”
I bet he soon rearranges his timetable.

What DryRoastPeanut says! It will do everybody good. If that fails, re-home the dog, and sooner rather than later.

Would a rota work, so he could see that the task was shared fairly?

Why should it be shared fairly when she does everything else?

Set up a rota. 3 days each 1 joint and stick to it

Who wanted to get the dog originally and how old is it ?

Why should it be shared fairly when she does everything else?

Where does the OP say she does everything else?

Rescues are full of staffies, and they struggle to regime them due to the reputation of staffies having irresponsible owners. Does your DP want to add to that?

Yep. Take the dog out and leave him with the baby.

I'm reporting your post to get MN to update the title, as it doesn't make sense 😀

Has something by happened he's not told you/Is he possibly nervous about taking the dog out alone?

This is worrying

"WFH, but never has any actual work to do"

Who the heck is paying his wages when he WFH but has no work to do @Opinionator

Redundancy if I employed him - why pay for someone who has no work? Someone might spot his job having no work to do soon and bang all gone.

So keep any eye on that.

Secondly tell the stupid lazy ass to get up and walk the dog

Poor dog. People like this who have a dog and don't walk it don't deserve dogs - perhaps find a new home for the dog and the reluctant husband.

PS Why get the dog if such a chore for you both?

Yes, if he is made redundant because he is WFH but has no actual work to do, he'll have all the time in the world to walk the dog.

Get him a fitbit for Xmas, it might motivate him to try reach 10,000 steps a day.