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Neighbours party

101 replies

ShakinScarecrow · 01/11/2020 00:28

My neighbour is having a party. They have a marquee in their garden and people are in and out of the house and garden. It's an adults birthday party and they are playing loud-ish music. There's 15+ people there.
This is in London so under tier 2 restrictions.
I'm in bed BTW.
WWYD?
A) ignore, none of my business
B) report to non emergency police website
C) get out of bed, get dressed and go round and speak to them

OP posts:
pictish · 01/11/2020 07:32

A - but then, I’m not a reporter and have no desire to cause trouble for people for enjoying themselves.

user1487194234 · 01/11/2020 07:34

A

KatherineJaneway · 01/11/2020 07:35

B

Fuckers like that are partly why we are in this position now.

emilybrontescorsett · 01/11/2020 07:36

B

Bambooble · 01/11/2020 07:38

B is..... morally wrong. It’s far, far more wrong than your neighbours having friends around their house, and I am frightened that people can’t see it.

Morally wrong, have a word. Snooping and reporting someone having an extra visitor, or a small gathering for something important is wrong. Reporting someone for having a noisy party you can finally report and someone might tell them to shut the fuck up is not.

MsSquiz · 01/11/2020 07:39

I would've gone with option B too, and have done recently.
A neighbour had a party on a Friday night in their garden, where loud music and screaming went on until 1am, it then resumed at 9am Saturday morning, stopped for a bit during the day and started again in the evening until after midnight.

We reported to police and the council - not even as a Covid thing, but as a noise complaint. It's about basic respect for your neighbours.
By all means, play your music, have people round, whatever. But show some respect and turn the music down/off by midnight or go in the bloody house!

Stressedmummyof4 · 01/11/2020 07:43

Just reading this it's amazing how opinions have changed over the past months.

At the beginning any of these posts were instantly met with option A as the answer, but people are changing. This second wave is hammering people's lives, jobs and families and people are becoming fed up.

It's never just 'one' party, what if every second street has a house with a get together of around 15 people, it only takes one person in that group and then we have another outbreak.

If we could all just manage to stick with our local rules maybe we might just manage a slightly better Christmas that what's on the horizon just now.

Bluntness100 · 01/11/2020 07:44

I’d have done A. I really have no time for folks who secretly report their neighbours and are too scared to own their own behaviour.

I’d rather be the type to have a party rather than the type who secretly reports and pretends it wasn’t them.

Thespottytortoise · 01/11/2020 07:47

B

It wasn't someone discreetly sneaking their mother in for dinner, it was blatant breaking of the law, to such an extent it was causing nuisance to neighbours.

People being willing to turn a blind eye is part of the reason we are in this mess.

PhilCornwall1 · 01/11/2020 07:48

You can guarantee there are going to be more threads like this now after last night balls up.

Isn't the simple answer to just make up your own mind?

Personally, I couldn't give two shits what people do to be honest.

FlorentineAz · 01/11/2020 07:58

@PhilCornwall1 where do you live that you could just invite yourself into someone else’s party? I live in a part of the country renowned for its friendly people and I wouldn’t dream of just walking into someone else’s house - I guarantee that the hosts would not react well! Grin I need to move to your area because it’s clearly much better than mine!

fishonabicycle · 01/11/2020 08:00

A

Sunnydayhere · 01/11/2020 08:32

I’d have gone for option B.

3 relatives/friends of family down etc.

Also easier as you live in a densely populated area.

wasthataburp · 01/11/2020 08:48

A - because you are not under a Nazi dictatorship.

Keep your nose out of their business

Bambooble · 01/11/2020 08:53

Keep your nose out of their business

They have made it OPs business by being noisy, even disregarding covid, it's irritating living next to people who blast music at all hours. Usually no one gives a hoot, fuck it why not use it as an excuse to get someone to tell them to shut up.

Bluesheep8 · 01/11/2020 09:02

A- It’s all very well people saying B. However they’re going to be your neighbors long after Covid has gone.

Long after covid has gone? I really wish I shared your optimism. Today I feel as though it will never go.

Whatatoodoodle · 01/11/2020 09:06

A. It sounds like they were making a bit of effort with both the rules and neighbourly relations- not loads of people, partly outdoors and only loud-ish music.
It’s not something I’d do currently but not the worst thing in the world

VioletSunset · 01/11/2020 09:13

A covid party is like a neighborhood announcement that they don't give a crap about anyone else nearby.

Yep.

MegaClutterSlut · 01/11/2020 09:13

Bit late but I'd say B. Normally I couldn't give two shits either but its people ignoring the rules by having a party with 15+ people is why we are going to keep going in and out of Bloody lockdowns!

PhilCornwall1 · 01/11/2020 09:44

@MegaClutterSlut

Bit late but I'd say B. Normally I couldn't give two shits either but its people ignoring the rules by having a party with 15+ people is why we are going to keep going in and out of Bloody lockdowns!
Funny, I thought everyone was saying its schools, colleges an universities causing the problem.

Guess this can be added to the list too.

Bluntness100 · 01/11/2020 09:52

Have to laugh at the folks saying “I’d not normally be the type of person who reports secretly but...” in my view you either are or you aren’t that person .

Covid just brought it out in these people, and they relish it. I’m guessing they did the same at school, at work, or any other opportunity they have ever got, and will always have a reason for it, have very few friends, or the limited few they have are just like them.

Whatsonmymindgrapes · 01/11/2020 09:52

A

MegaClutterSlut · 01/11/2020 10:38

PhilCornwall1 of course people having parties isn't the only reason, didn't think that needed to be said Hmm but it doesn't help does it. We don't get a choice about schools etc but It is a stupid choice to have a party with that many people

Bambooble · 01/11/2020 11:54

Covid just brought it out in these people, and they relish it. I’m guessing they did the same at school, at work, or any other opportunity they have ever got, and will always have a reason for it, have very few friends, or the limited few they have are just like them.

Yes all of those psycics reporting people for covid related infringements when they were at school, or maybe there wasn't anything similar to compare to. I think it's usually pathetic to report people, but if people want to for a party of 15 people when everyone else is being shafted left right and centre then why not. Easier to blame the person reporting than those doing evidently.

NetflixWatcher · 01/11/2020 11:57

Definately B and I'd report to the local council as when i did this before I found they were very good and they contacted my neighbour as it was a council property and there has been no parties since.