That him having a day off should trump me earning more money

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Our dd has just turned 3 which means she will get her 30 hours in January. I work 30 hours currently and was therefore hoping that I could work full time, as we can afford to put her in an extra day at nursery. Do works full time but over 3 days per week. He earns twice as much as me.
Just brought up my nursery plan with dp. He turns to me and says ‘well I am putting her in nursery on Monday cos I want a day off (not looking after her). So not even to work. I am fuming that we are nearly at a position where I can earn more and his priority is a day to himself. We currently live in ‘his’ house and my priority is us moving. I need to earn more so I can pay off some debts and be in a better position do so.
who is BU?

He earns a good salary and has his own house. His priority is a day off, to himself, without his child. There’s nothing wrong with that.

How many times do we see the question on here, “is it OK to put child in nursery when I’m not working, for a break?”? And the consensus is always: YES.

Sounds like excellent work life balance. (assuming he is parenting on some of his other 3 non working days)

Put your child in full time. You go back to work full time - and leave him to make his own decisions.

does he want to move? .... at the moment everything is in his name - are you paying toward the mortagage bills etc?

is it debt from before the relationship...

you are in a very vulnerable position financially i think you have bigger issues than the extra day at nursery as your financial goals/plan are not the same...

It doesn’t seem like you have the same financial goals. You definitely don’t have a strong plan to get to the goals.