AIBU to be annoyed/upset

[Daisy2206]

So I have an almost 4 week old baby, partner was going out with lads tonight to wet the babies head, I was to have a couple of the girls over so I wasn't alone while he was gone. Wine and cheese night, so I'd spent quite a bit on different cheeses, wines, chutneys, nice bread. Had tidied and cleaned key areas whilst running on little sleep...
10 minutes before they are due to come over one friend messages me to ask if they could just pop in for an hour because it's her birthday next weekend a snow we're going into lockdown she wants to see people and celebrate (get pissed) otherwise she'll be sad she didn't get to do anything for her birthday.
I was pissed off and told her to either come for the planned evening, or not bother. So she didn't bother. Nor did the other friend as she went out to the pub too but didn't even have the decency to message me and say she wasn't coming.

Oh and these two girls are supposed to be babies godmothers.

@SpeccyLime

I don't mean to offend but a cheese and wine party on a Saturday night versus going out to town is never going to end well.

Unless you are absolutely mannerless you will know that this a irrelevant. It doesn’t matter what the nature of the invitation is - you don’t cancel established plans at the last minute because a better offer has come along. It’s utterly crass and graceless to think that’s acceptable.

(Also, it was rude to suggest that OP’s party was never going to live up to the night on the town. Personally, I would pick an evening with a couple of close friends having cheese and wine and a nice conversation over a sweaty, coronavirus-riddled pub full of shrieking, drunk adults every time. We all like different things).

The friend asked for a compromise as lockdown had just been announced. It wasn’t a normal Situation and it’s totally acceptable to want to celebrate your own birthday.

@Halliehallie9828 yeah I thought we were going to continue with tiers

Given the lock down, you have just had a baby so you were already not able to go out and about for a while, this being your first time able to socialise, with another locker down coming - so will be even more isolated, your “Friends’ behaviour isn’t more deplorable and selfish.

These two are totally selfish years who don’t care about you or supporting you during your early motherhood when some social support is really needed. I’d just dump them

Any other friends who support such selfish and uncaring behaviour aren’t your friends either

@Bluesheep8
I think there's 'traditional' ways of doing things I know my grandma said for a girl they should have 2 godmothers and 1 godfather and for a boy 2 godfathers and 1 godmother.
It's all a load of tripe. We're catholic and our priest said that ideally to have 2 god parents and as long as they practice the religion it's fine! Me and hubby both have a sister, so our daughter has her 2 aunties as godparents.

OP your 'friends' sound very selfish. They can only see their point of view from the sounds of it! You've gone through lockdown being pregnant etc and then gave birth during uncertain times and this is the first night you can socialise! I'd much rather have a cosy night in with my friends drinking wine and eating cheese and having a good old catch up pre 2nd lockdown than a 'night on the town' that has to finish before 10, you have to sit down and wear a mask when your not!
Their priorities are to themselves and not friendships!
Definitely re think the god parents!!!