To not want him in my bubble anymore?

[Lizzie523]

I am 29, single and living alone in Scotland, so fairly isolated and being safe. Only going to shops, walk in a park or take out coffee with a friend once in a blue moon.

My parents and a few close friends are in my bubble.

But since day 1 my dad has been acting almost like things are normal. Dont get me wrong - he wears the mask everywhere he should and so on but I feel he is being irresponsible now with going too many places.

He works in a school so already high risk. On top of this he went to the local library yesterday, then went round about 10 shops after. Tomorrow he is meeting a friend in a cafe.

AIBU to basically say I am concerned? He is an adult but I dont feel I will be willing to keep seeing him if this continues.

OP, the phrase people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones springs to mind!

Your dad is living his life and is doing it within the guidelines. If you want to make up rules and restrict yourself that’s your lookout. Don’t impose them on other people.

This is very succinctly put. Your dad has chosen to go to the library and the cafe. Pretty run of the mill things. Social distancing is enforced everywhere amd you can’t move for hand sanitiser wherever you go. I’m with your dad. If you feel differently, that’s up to you.

And who else is in your friend’s bubble? You can’t just make up bubbles. You can’t add multiple households to your bubble.

Your Dad isn’t doing anything wrong. We’re allowed to go to shops, see friends depending on where you live etc, go the library. As long as you socially distance and wash hands/use sanitiser. You’re the one making up bubbles, he’s carrying on within the rules. You are allowed to go shopping
and wander round your local high street.

Oh and all our shielders are back at work (I work in a hospital). So ‘having asthma’ doesn’t necessarily mean much. Depending on your asthma obviously.

My parents and a few close friends are in my bubble.

How am I breaking the rules by meeting one friend socially distanced a month and being part of a bubble with my parents?

YABU and you're twisting the truth. So I would believe that your dad isn't doing nearly as much stuff as you claim , just as you cant decide how many friends are or aren't in your made up bubble that is against the rules.

What rules am I breaking?

Lots of people have made it very clear, why aren't you reading what they are saying. You said in your very first post about a bubble with your parents and a few friends. That is what is not allowed!

In Scotland an extended household is essentially a social bubble, and people who are in one can visit each other’s houses, eat meals together, and stay overnight, and do not have to social distance from one another. It enables people who live alone or a single parent living with children only to join another household.

It’s therefore fine that OP has formed a bubble with her mother, because OP is single.

However, OP, it’s only you and your mother (and your dad, if he lives with your mum - sorry, that wasn’t clear) who can be in the bubble. None of your friends are in the bubble, and neither is your dad unless he’s part of the same household as your mum.

That means you can only see those friends in accordance with the general rules - no more than 2 households meeting at once, no more than 6 people at once, and then the tier-specific rules which, depending on where you live, may preclude you from meeting anywhere other than cafes etc.

It doesn’t sound like your dad is breaking the rules, but if his behaviour is making you anxious it’s totally up to you if you want to limit how much you see him.

I think some of the confused responses are coming from the fact that you talked about being in a bubble with a few households which obviously isn’t allowed, but I don’t think that’s what’s actually happening here. You’re in a bubble with one household - your mum’s - and just seeing other friends now and then. As long as you’re meeting those friends in accordance with the rules, you’re fine.

OP won't be back because she's realised she's wrong. 😂

My parents and a few close friends are in my bubble.

Put in OP by mistake....🤔

Why have more than one other household in your bubble anyway? That's taking the piss anyway.

@Lizzie523

In Scotland we were told we can form a bubble. I stay overnight with one person occasionally, that is my mother.

I see one of these friends once a month - I view this as exercising caution. My dad is meeting a variety of friends every weekend for the most part. Then hitting the shops, then cafes. It is the sum total of all of these things that is the issue.

People can say 'he isn't doing anything illegal' if they want but he isnt exercising any caution and another lockdown is imminent

I am also in Scotland. You can form an extended household ( the same as a bubble) with one other household only. If you are meeting friends within the rules you must either be meeting them in a hospitality setting or remain two metres distant (and wear a mask if inside).

I think it’s quite worrying when you describe normal everyday activities such as shopping, visiting the library and going into cafes as ‘high risk’.

Your dad is following the rules. You are not.