Family court

[dublingirl66]

Feel so so let down

Got a case end of next week
Barrister was supposed to guide me through it all
Send paperwork
Give me a change to reply to a few things

Not heard a word

Second time this has happened and just feeling so alone tonight
Have not told my family as my brother is ill and may not survive so don't want to worry them
Really have no one to speak to
Paying her THOUSANDS and I'm just fuming
But if I say something this may go against me

Handhold please or even little words of wisdom would mean a lot right now

Also regarding your exes unreasonable position -regarding direct care and then full custody -given the circumstances -he may as well start at the other end of the court -hoping you might meet in the middle. I'd be looking to terminal parental rights.

Thank you all

I was upset last week that so little was done by barrister despite saying she would

She did then last minute
The timeline was altered

I did. Not know this was the norm

And she has been good in many ways

Thanks again all

Let's see how this goes

What a nughtmare
Hope he is jailed in a few months

@Nailgirl was it unsupervised?

I don't want this demon near my innocent child

He is a mad man
Assaulted her when she was small

Could write a book at this stage

My ex/?

He hit me and my eldest child -a fact he always argues. I sent to hospital. 7 years ago now -the police did nothing saying it was his word against mine -eldest DC remembers it clearly as he hurt her too.

The GP documented it, I had x rays (wasn't broken) no criminal trial or arrest etc.

Stick to the facts -in my opinion courts don't do emotion. Or want piles of evidence -just nuts and bolts. Statements from witnesses, GP report, hospital report.
My ex still denies he hit me. Evidence is there.
He might not have a criminal conviction -he even tried to get me sectioned. Saying I was mad.He still maintains I had PND and imagined it all.

I'm so so sorry !!

So he got regular contact considering all he did?

That is so hard

I'm bracing myself for the worse

This man lies like an expert
Zero remorse
Apparently I deserved it all

Got quite a few witnesses
Neighbours rang police etc
Hospital records
We shall see

I look back now at when the police were called every time and how they all tried to persuade me to press charges because they knew what a violent disgusting abuser he was. I wish to God I had pressed charges.

@Hopdathelf

What you’re describing is not unusual. Position statements are filed the day before as standard. It can then take days to fix the exact wording of a contentious order which then has to go to the judge for approval. You should be given the gist of the order immediately but it is entirely normal for it to take days to get an approved order.

I know the DV makes this hard for you but I suggest you get a professional second opinion before you start thinking of complaints to The Law Society. What happened may have been normal and perfectly understandable in the circumstances. If you need extra hand holding and support, that needs to be factored into costs estimates for the future.

Please do take professional advice and not rely on internet ransoms. I was appalled to read the suggestion upthread that a barrister is unnecessary at a fact finding hearing. A poor showing there could ruin your whole case. In your case it sounds like that may not be needed if the criminal case goes the right way. If it does not then you must take expert advice ASAP.

Agree with this. Also as you have a solicitor of board, they should be the ones communicating with you, instructing the barrister, ensuring telephone conferences etc are scheduled. It really is for them to manage that sort of admin and if the barrister really is the problem not responding, they can instruct someone else for you instead. There are plenty of family barristers all over the place. I'm so sorry you have had this experience. It sounds like poor communication and a poor explanation of everyone's roles

But my gosh it is hard to press charges

I had convinced myself 5 months later to go ahead and after I went to police I got a call from an officer saying to realise that not much will happen and did I really want to put myself through all of that

Thank god I did
He may get jail
I pray he does he deserves it and hopefully it may put other abusers off hurting innocent babies and their mothers

Yes things did get better when I spoke to solicitor and said please can someone stick to the plan that was made instead of calling one week later for example
To be fair I was panicking and they have been really busy

Glad I posted on here as I had no idea this is how it normally happens