Period pads in bathroom bin

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My mum gets worried and anxious about all sorts of crazy things, courtesy of her mother. I am much more chilled and so we clash a bit...

I gave birth 2 weeks ago and, of course, I'm still bleeding a bit and wear biggish daily pads (the biggest one of the small ones, you know). My mum said to me that I shouldn't put them in the bin in the bathroom because of my DH and FIL. I should take a separate bag (and put it where???!!!).

Let me be straight with you: my answer was "not happening"!!!

Are you team "my mum" or, like me, you think "though"?? (Btw the boys of the house don't usually empty the bathroom bin)

Who’s house is this? So are you living with your DH, your newborn, your mother and your father in law?

If not the latter two then why is your mother inspecting your bins? And why is she concerned that your father in law will be inclined to do the same?

We still don’t know who’s house this is at! I’m so overinvested!

@imjustbxx this woman would love your house m.youtube.com/watch?v=Z2y5rcFFa14

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Surely the kitchen bin is way more gross??

I’m half team mum half team you. Open used pads in an open bin doesn’t sit right with me at all. But surely a lidded bathroom bin is what it’s for? We have a small lidded bin next to go loo for this purpose even though it’s an all girl house (I’m single).

It truly upsets me if I go to a house where there isn’t a bathroom bin for that purpose 😂

Is the worry that the male folk will learn that females bleed monthly or just that they'll be disgusted by the sight of a bloody towel? Either way, the point of having a bathroom bin is to put rubbish produced in the bathroom in it, so I'm team you. I wouldn't buy extra plastic bags either just roll them up and use the next wrapper.

[quote grey12]@Ihatesandwiches we do that actually!!! Plumbing is not great in this house....

I do roll and wrap. My mum is just difficult.... she said I needed to hide my post pregnancy belly with flowy clothes when we went out [/quote]
Hang on, so used and soiled loo roll can go in the bathroom bin but no pads?!

Aaaaw.... isn't it a shame that there are so many delicate little flower menfolk out there being horrified and terrified by all those nasty sanpro. We must protect our sensitive little husbands and fathers.

Seriously I would just gawp and then burst out laughing at my mum if she told me to hide my post birth sanpro. I think my DH would too.

We have a teenage daughter and DH would happily go out and buy her pads. He bought all mine for me, even going to the trouble of asking female staff for recommendations when I had my firstborn (and my lady bits felt like they had been through a blender I was in so much pain!)

And shock horror, he even empties the bathroom bin sometimes too. Sanpro be damned. Such a brave soul....

Aaaaw.... isn't it a shame that there are so many delicate little flower menfolk out there being horrified and terrified by all those nasty sanpro.

I dont think there are.

I think much of this is coming from the internalised misogyny of women themselves.
I am not a young woman.
I have lived life to the full, including several long term partners ( 8 years +) and many sexual partners.
I have never met a man who found the idea of periods, lochia or sanpro disgusting or disturbing.

This is something women do to themselves.

@speakout it was sarcasm.

Remember the OP is not complaining about a man's attitude- she is questioning another woman's attitude.

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I do realise that.

Women can still be misogynist as this demonstrates.

Women can still be misogynist as this demonstrates.

Absolutely!

My mother is a total misogynist.

It is a fact of life and the men in your household and your FIL will know that. I would tell her that keeping a tiny little baby alive is your main concern not the precious sensitivities of the "menz". When my DS was small that was all I could do although I emptied the bin regularly (and still do)

If I didn’t put the contents of the bathroom bin into the large kitchen bin, that contains a black bag, I’m not sure where I’d put it?

Surely you pull bin liner out of the bin, tie the top and take it to the big outside bin... That’s what I do, every other day if I have my period, when it is full or the night before the fortnightly bin collection otherwise.

The kitchen bin is only emptied fortnightly (we don’t create much non recyclable waste) and is in the KITCHEN so certainly not appropriate for bathroom waste!

Your house your rules her house her rules.

I think you are fine to put them in the bathroom bin of course so long as they are wrapped (and the bin has a lid).

If you’re at your mum or MIL’s house I think you should put the pads in a separate bag/nappy bag and either keep it in your room or take it to the wheelie bin. Lochia does have a strong smell and it’s not nice in someone else’s home especially if shes the one emptying the bin! You could take a few an opaque make up bag into the bathroom and pop the bagged pads in that?

My parents have an open bathroom bin so I never put tampons or pads in it, I wrap them and take them outside to bin (like nappies) or put them in my room and take them out later. My dad has a fear of blood!

My mum won’t even let me leave my clean undies visible in her guestroom, I have to hide them in my bag in case my dad sees them; I don’t think my dad would notice or care about a bra draped over a chair but it’s their house so I respect my mum’s wishes.

I’m team your mum but I was brought up to feel ashamed of my body too.

I’m trying really hard not to pass it on to my kids.

I don't do either: I use reusable pads, which are washed. Better environmentally and saves money long term.

www.amazon.co.uk/White-Paper-Sanitary-Disposal-Bags/dp/B07FQVBL2B/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&crid=2C0F45IYJPVLB&keywords=paper+sanitary+disposal+bags&sprefix=paper+sanita%2Caps%2C249&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1604138451&sr=8-5

I've met plenty of males who are uncomfortable about periods and need to mock the whole process, from my school days onwards, it certainly is not all in women's minds.

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Shame is only healthy when it alerts us to our own bad behaviour so we can change it in future.

It’s evil to make girls and women feel shame about their healthy body. Honestly I feel furious that you and so many others are made to feel that way.

I don't do either: I use reusable pads, which are washed. Better environmentally and saves money long term

Me too, plus a mooncup and those cotton things you put between your labia to stop leaks. But when I was post partum I used disposables; you get through so many and have enough to do without rinsing, washing and drying pads 😊

I wouldn't leave used toilet paper in a bin for someone else to clear up. Used Sanpro is no different. It's not about being ashamed of your bodily functions, it's about dignity and the ick factor is probably just rooted in the fear of contamination rather than shame. This is really not a feminist thing.