Period pads in bathroom bin

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My mum gets worried and anxious about all sorts of crazy things, courtesy of her mother. I am much more chilled and so we clash a bit...

I gave birth 2 weeks ago and, of course, I'm still bleeding a bit and wear biggish daily pads (the biggest one of the small ones, you know). My mum said to me that I shouldn't put them in the bin in the bathroom because of my DH and FIL. I should take a separate bag (and put it where???!!!).

Let me be straight with you: my answer was "not happening"!!!

Are you team "my mum" or, like me, you think "though"?? (Btw the boys of the house don't usually empty the bathroom bin)

I used tena lady pants and they were excellent, really comfortable and no leaks at all

Has she seen that 1980s video nasty where the men of the house are killed by used san pro left inside the house or the one where sight of the same turn them into zombies? If only I could (think of a funny) remember the name. tampaximum death and Friday the 13th, every bloody month.

Oh my god, my mum was like this as well. Really weird about men seeing women’s San pro. I wasn’t even allowed to leave them in the bathroom, and if I ever accidentally left a wrapper out she’d go mad in case my dad or bother saw them. I mean surely they knew that we had fucking periods?

I'm team you. We've just bought a bathroom bin with a lid for exactly this reason. The dog used to empty the contents and try and 'kill' them. Not a pretty look.

Team you as there is nothing wrong with putting them in the bin as long as the bin is emptied daily and the pads wrapped/enclosed in something (nappy sack) as that is a pretty disgusting thing for someone to look at if they go to use the bin and find used sanitary protection in. Also unhygienic in general to leave them unwrapped and could attract insects.

Team you. Males in our lives need to accept what women put up with.

I’d love it if they attracted my bathroom spiders! Safer in the bin than on the ceiling where they could dangle down on to me - the horror

I thought that was literally the purpose of bathroom bins.

Does she check the fabric covers for furniture legs remain in place every morning so the men of the house are not driven into sexual frenzy by the sight of a bare (chair) leg?

I would always wrap them in a bit of loo roll.

That said, it does seem to be a generational thing. My Nan was always utterly mortified that I kept my tampons on the bathroom shelf as if men seeing them was the worst thing in the World.

And I don't especially wrap mine if the next one doesn't have a wrap on it, and I don't even empty the bin particularly frequently, and the world hasn't come crashing down yet.

Mine would be popped in a bag or wrapped in paper and put into the outside bin.

@Eckhart The difference for me would be that it is MY handbag but THEIR bin. I just couldnt leave my san pro behind for another person to have to deal with when I could easily just take it home myself. And I would NEVER leave it if they had small kids or a dog who could go rooting through!

YABVU. What if one of the men sees it and dies instantly?

Flashbacks to bathroom bin in university house share where I would see badly rolled and barely wrapped san pro regularly (house of 6 girls). I stopped using the bin for my makeup wipes in the end, yuk. At least wrap the things well! It reeked.

I thought the whole point of a bathroom bin is it’s somewhere to put your sanitary pads. Anything else can be either flushed or carried out of room if needed but pads need a bin.

Yanbu.

I’m not clear on the exact issue with men seeing them, as opposed to girls/older women. Was it meant to be a turn off or something? Men aren’t seen as delicate flowers to be protected from the goorier side of life in general.

Just straightforward disgust at women’s bodies? Amazing most of them got married then

@gypsywater

See what you mean. Thanks for answering, rather than taking offence, at my very direct question.

Yes, my dog's been known to do that, but luckily only in our house.

@susandelgado
Interesting - I had no idea burning Sanpro was so common in the past. I was born in the 70’s so it really was abnormal and felt very shameful to be having to give my mother pads to burn in the mid 80’s. Not cool. The only reason is because I refused to wear a looped pads and mine couldn’t be flushed like my mother’s. I quickly went onto tampons, which already mentioned could be flushed....

I defo dont think its "worse" in any way for a man to see them though!

@ImEatingVeryHealthilyOhYes

I’m not clear on the exact issue with men seeing them, as opposed to girls/older women. Was it meant to be a turn off or something? Men aren’t seen as delicate flowers to be protected from the goorier side of life in general.

Just straightforward disgust at women’s bodies? Amazing most of them got married then

I’ve no idea. My DM insisted we kept our san pro hidden in our underwear drawer, if I went to the shops and picked a pack up I had to keep it in my bag until I was in my room and then hide them. She had a real shame about it. Yet my DF was allowed to do the smelliest shits imaginable, stink the bathroom out and shit leave stains all over the pan.. that was fine. Her and I having periods, no fine.

Maybe do what I do put used ones into a Nappy sack tie and put in Bathroom Bin Maybe your Mum is possibly worried Aabout your F.I.L seeing Bloodied Towels

Maybe it comes down to some really depressing beliefs about vaginas being inheriently sinful so we must be ashamed of them whenever they do anything like when it was unacceptable for women to enjoy sex. God how miserable.

I think a bathroom bin is much better than taking them on a little trip through the house to the kitchen bin? As long as it has a lid then what is the problem?

Oh, the poor little men, what might they think it they see a rolled-up pad in the bin?? Might it shock them too much??

That's what the bathroom bin is for, op!

Also, why doesn't your h empty the bins?

Congrats on your baby!