Period pads in bathroom bin

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My mum gets worried and anxious about all sorts of crazy things, courtesy of her mother. I am much more chilled and so we clash a bit...

I gave birth 2 weeks ago and, of course, I'm still bleeding a bit and wear biggish daily pads (the biggest one of the small ones, you know). My mum said to me that I shouldn't put them in the bin in the bathroom because of my DH and FIL. I should take a separate bag (and put it where???!!!).

Let me be straight with you: my answer was "not happening"!!!

Are you team "my mum" or, like me, you think "though"?? (Btw the boys of the house don't usually empty the bathroom bin)

I've always thought bathroom bins used for this purpose were a bit grim and I'm a toilet brush fan .

Personally I don't have a bin and I prefer the wrap and outside bin ASAP. Period blood has a certain whiff.

And in response to the PP who mentioned the dog's interest, I would agree. I have never forgotten staying at a friend's house and wrapping and putting in my bag until I could sneak it outside, only to find ten minutes later her dog dragging it across the landing after taking it from my bag in the bedroom.

Put them in the bin and don’t give it another fucking thought. Period shaming is still alive and well I see!

I grew up in a 2 bathroom household and don't remember having a bin in either so lord knows what me and my mum did with our used towels. I use a cup now but other than that I always wrapped up my towels in the wrapper of the next pad and put in the bathroom bin. My bathroom bin is just a cheap 'open' waste bin with a liner in it.
My stepdaughter is quite embarrassed about periods and seems to takes hers home with her rather than put them in any of our bins.
I'd be tempted to reply "if and when they start emptying the bathroom bin, then I'll think about what I put in it".

no period shaming here, just a preference for disposal ASAP, i wouldnt put a wipe i'd cleaned my bum in a bathroom bin. It's the same thing, no fear of menfolk seeing, just a distaste for leaving it hanging round longer than necessary.

Anything with body fluids on it needs to be wrapped up and ideally in a bin with a lid. Ear wax, nose dippings and blood.

Drippings!

And nothing about period shaming, I don''t want to see any body fluids and I am female.

I just roll mine up and put them in a scented nappy sack, then place in the bathroom bin.
I don't see the issue.

Not much point in having a bin in the bathroom if you're not supposed to put things like tampons or sanitary pads in it.

No doubt, for your DM, to the days when these things had to be hidden from the 'delicate' eyes and minds of the men.

I can remember going into our local corner shop and seeing women creep up to the female half of the owners of the shop and whispering 'a packet of Dr Whites please'. The packet was then put into a brown paper bag before being handed over to the customer.

She’s mental!

God when I was 2 weeks post partum I was so fed up of heavy bleeding and utterly miserable with breast feeding/stitches I could have used my DH’s pillow as a Sanitary towel and he would not have said a thing!!!

Standard period - who cares? Stick it in the bin.

Post natal bleeding - get it into the wheelie bin as soon as possible.

I found the smell of post natal bleeding to resemble stale steak - perhaps the MIL is trying to say as nicely as possible 'they stink'?

as long as you are wrapping them first, a nappy sack is ideal otherwise, its disgusting

Oh my word it’s not even period pads, it’s post natal bleeding! Ignore your mother, put them in the bin (wrapped).
This reminds me of when my friend’s mum asked her not to breastfeed in front of her father. Men surely don’t need to be protected from actually bodily functions.

We would find it gross if men did this.

Well I wouldn’t.... plenty of used condoms go in the bin in our en-suite bathroom....

i wrap mine in nappy bags then pop in the bin

Your mum clearly has nothing better to worry about and I can’t believe she is quibbling about this when you’ve just had a baby! Just put it in the bathroom bin then empty it regularly. What on Earth has is got to do with the male members of your household - how odd

@BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou used commons in your en-suite, try it at your family members home for a more balanced reaction.

We still don’t know who’s house this is at. Come on OP tell us!

This reminds me of when my friend's mum asked her not to breastfeed in front of her father.

Yes, I had a lot of that when I was breastfeeding my son: one relation of exh got furious with me when I started feeding in front of her husband, in the end she grab her husband's hand and stormed out of the room with him in tow.

My BIL's MIL told me I was 'sick' for breastfeeding my son.

Mind you this was 40 years ago; I would have hoped things would have moved on a bit by now.

@gypsywater I fully understand and respect that it's personal preference, but I'm very curious to know why you think it's less gross to carry something round in your handbag than in is to put it in a bin? I mean, surely if it's well wrapped enough to not make a mess or a smell in your handbag, it wouldn't offend anyone by being in a bin?

And a general question to everyone... What are bathroom bins for, if not this kind of thing?

I’m against a bathroom bin in general lol
I mean... do people really throw used toilet paper there? And keep it there?
There’s nothing to be ashamed about in your situation, but things like sanitary pads are best kept away. I don’t see how it would benefit anyone if a used sanitary pad will stay there in the bin or been seen. I don’t feel like I violate my own rights by keeping things like this away from peoples eyes. I wrap it in a small bag similar to a nappy bag so it doesn’t smell and discard with general rubbish.

Don't get me started ! Yes I had the same ridiculous conversation with my mother in MY house ... as though DH would evaporate once he realised women bleed after child birth and roughly once a month..

You can imagine how apoplectic she went when I whipped out a boob in front of my brothers to feed babies... (it was apparently 'unnecessary' and would of made DBS 'uncomfortable' ).. eh.. no it didn't because they would rather I stayed and chatted with them then left them alone in my own house whilst I fed the baby upstairs... and because they are normal human beings not consumed by 1950s views on life ..

I’m tempted to draw a tampon and a smiley face on my bin so guests know I’m ok with it. But that’s a little bit weird right?

We never had a bathroom bin when I was a teenager. We had to take them all the way through the house to the main kitchen bin. Lots of sneaky embarrassing trips past my dad or visitors to the house. I still hate it when I stay with friends or relatives who don't have a bathroom bin.

I'd say as long as they are wrapped, no problem with the bathroom bin. Nappy bags might be a good idea if they are maternity pads.

I put regular used pads rolled and sealed with the wrapper in our covered toilet bin. No issues... However, after I had given birth, only one of those maternity pads would’ve fit in because they’re humongous! So I used a shopping bag, wrapped it in there and put in in the household waste.