AIBU about filming incidents?

[MsStillwell]

This is something that happened yesterday that's been playing on my mind.

Whilst shopping, I came across a couple of men fighting. They were drug addicts squabbling outside the pharmacy about £4 that one still owed/had already paid the other. One male passerby was attempting to calm things down, another male passerby had stopped to do the same as me - see if he could help and generally support the man who was intervening.

What really got my goat was the people who stopped to do nothing but film. Why do people do this? I said to one young female, "I don't think you should be filming this" and she replied, "Yeah well they shouldn't be doing it". I have more respect for people who carry on walking and don't get involved.

When I was growing up people who stopped to gawp at things like this were called ghouls and it was a shameful thing to do. Now it passes as an opportunity to get likes. It's behaviour that seems completely lacking in human kindness, dignity and respect.

Nobody should be doing anything in public that they don’t mind others seeing anyway

This reminded me of that trend to film women eating on public transport just to fat shame them.

[quote throwaway100000]@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe are you always this hysterical?

OP stated: And the thought went through my head how, as a middle-aged, over-weight woman, people on social media would comment on me too.

To which I responded that no one would be paying attention to her - as surely they would be focused on the topic of the video at hand eg the trashy argument between the men? People in the background are rarely commented on, even with viral videos. Did anyone actually die in OP’s scenario btw? Or are you just inventing creepy straw man arguments?

I would say it’s vile to say to someone “I wonder if you'd feel the same if/when somebody you care about is hurt/killed”. Come across as if you’re wishing death upon someone I care about to prove a point! How dare you?[/quote]
Your post is ridiculous. I won't call you 'hysterical' though as that's just misogynistic, lazy trope, odd when women use it but perhaps you're not a woman, wrong of me to assume. We won't agree on this, I'm ok with that.

I find this thread horrendous as didn't realise filming was so commonplace in incidents. I find it so abhorrent that so many people act this way. But equally I have found it distasteful when people have taken photos smiling and grinning at places such as Ground Zero instead of quietly marking their respects.

My husband is a police officer and gets really annoyed by this.
If he sees people filming he tells them to stop otherwise he will be forced to take their phone away as it will be classed as evidence...that usually stops them

The police do appeal for any footage people may have of an incident and if people hand it over to them then fair enough. However, most of the time it seems to go on social media for all the world to see. And that is ghoulish behaviour.

My husband recently left the police and he said people filmed dead bodies even

Vile

@SunshineLollipopsRainbow

My husband is a police officer and gets really annoyed by this. If he sees people filming he tells them to stop otherwise he will be forced to take their phone away as it will be classed as evidence...that usually stops them

So your husband is a liar, then? Great example he’s setting as a policeman. Does he abuse his power often?

People are allowed to film incidents whether he agrees with it or not, and their phone would not be taken away as the footage could be sent if requested.

Hopefully people have the sense to take his badge number and make a complaint against him.

So your husband is a liar, then? Great example he’s setting as a policeman. Does he abuse his power often?

The police can seize a phone from a witness if they have reasonable grounds to believe it contains evidence of an offence.

Personally, if a loved one of mine were injured or (God forbid) killed, I'd want @SunshineLollipopsRainbow's DH there. Fine though if you'd rather it was plastered all over Facebook.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

So your husband is a liar, then? Great example he’s setting as a policeman. Does he abuse his power often?

The police can seize a phone from a witness if they have reasonable grounds to believe it contains evidence of an offence.

Personally, if a loved one of mine were injured or (God forbid) killed, I'd want @SunshineLollipopsRainbow's DH there. Fine though if you'd rather it was plastered all over Facebook.

Thank you. That's the exact reason why he does it so the victims families don't have to see it plastered all over facebook/YouTube.

@emilyfrost actually no, he is a very compassionate person looking out for victims of attacks rather than idiots that use other peoples suffering for entertainment!

So your husband is a liar, then? Great example he’s setting as a policeman. Does he abuse his power often?
People are allowed to film incidents whether he agrees with it or not, and their phone would not be taken away as the footage could be sent if requested
Hopefully people have the sense to take his badge number and make a complaint against him.

😂😂

so not only some people have no shame but they do get quite angry about their precious right to be a total arse.

It's unbelievable, but of course this thread would attract at least one of the guilty parties.

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@LucillevsLowkee blimey, that didn't pull any punches Good ad.

@emilyfrost someone should complain about that mean old fireman spoiling peeplz fun

It’s nothing new in terms of human behavior, only the technology has changed. In the old days people would watch buildings burning down or attend executions as if they were entertainment.

@Laureline one theory is that it's instinctive - so if one of us got attacked by a sabre tooth tiger or whatever, the ones who stopped and stared would remember to be more wary of tiger attacks in future. Not that that excuses it, obviously!

That's what I was making the point about in an earlier post. The attention-seeking morons who behave like this, would they be ok if it were their family member/friend on the floor? Or is it just ok when it's somebody else?

It should be a criminal offence and I have zero respect for people who do this.