My step children get on my nerves, AIBU?

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I'm very fond of them and treat them just as well as my own, but they don't half get on my nerves sometimes. They are 10 and 11.

AIBU?

Are step mothers allowed to feel this way on MN?

YANBU, my 7 year old gets on my nerves sometimes. He has a stepmum and I'd be fine with her saying the same!

Yes!!! My own son gets on my nerves sometimes

My own kids get on my nerves. So I can imagine they annoy the hell out of other people. That being said, MN is generally not pro-step parent.

Don't get me wrong, mine can be a massive pain in the arse and drive me up the wall too. I'm not discriminating because they're step

Voters that IBU, please tell me why?

Some one will be along soon to say How can you be so cruel and heartless and have you no shame? etc
But yanbu

You probably get on their nerves too though OP. That’s what family is like. Your own kids get on your nerves too.

Well my own children piss me right off on a regular basis, so I don’t see why your step children can’t irritate you.

Of course. My own children get on my nerves 🤣 I’m sure Ds gets on his stepmothers nerves too!

I imagine they do find me annoying too, mind.

Doing work on my laptop, concentrating, not wanting to look at them on crash bandicoot after the 20th request in half an hour

My own children get on my nerves daily! YANBU!!

Mine too, in abundance.

In the unlikely event they end up with a step mother one day, i give said woman my expressed permission to have a moan about them now and then.

YANBU. I was talking to a friend the other day about blended families and I said to her that if my dd15 wasn't my flesh and blood then there's no way I'd be able to live with her!

YANBU

my own children get on my wick! toes normal!!

for anyone who has a go at the OP - you dont have kids lol

Quite! I imagine those saying I'm unreasonable either don't have children OR strongly dislike their exes new partner so the mere thought of a next wife being annoyed by their DC gives them the rage

They'd never know that they get on my wick as I'm nothing but loving toward them, even though they drive me potty at least once per visit by:

Wasting food
Screaming and shouting
Refusing to put down their devices

Rinse and repeat

Kids in general get on my nerves , mine and other peoples .. I’m inclusive like that

My kids don’t half piss me off sometimes and I bet their stepmum feels the same... I don’t have stepkids and I’m so glad 😂

YANBU and Cruella!!!

I count down the minutes to bed time for my own so nah nbu

My own child annoys me, I don’t expect other people not to find him annoying.

We’ve had a night at a glamping site just me and him, it was lovely to have some son and Daddy time, he was also extremely irritating.

The only difference I found between my step kids (26 and 23 now) and my own kids was the the softening cane quicker with my own. With your own kids you can put them back in their box as soon as they start annoying you. With step kids you don't have that same freedom and are sometimes waiting for the parent to tell them off. So it was a like a more drawn out irritation whereas with my own I would stop them before they got too annoying and then be back friends with them minutes later. I found the simmer left me annoyed longer and sometime resentful. Thank God they are all grown up now and I only have 2 of my own still had home, that annoy me constantly but I feel more in control. Sds are lovely now and never annoy me.

YANBU, you’re treating them like your own who as you said can also be a pain in the butt. We all feel like that at some point.

@MysweetAudrina

The only difference I found between my step kids (26 and 23 now) and my own kids was the the softening cane quicker with my own. With your own kids you can put them back in their box as soon as they start annoying you. With step kids you don't have that same freedom and are sometimes waiting for the parent to tell them off. So it was a like a more drawn out irritation whereas with my own I would stop them before they got too annoying and then be back friends with them minutes later. I found the simmer left me annoyed longer and sometime resentful. Thank God they are all grown up now and I only have 2 of my own still had home, that annoy me constantly but I feel more in control. Sds are lovely now and never annoy me.

I think you've hit the nail on the head with that!

Yep - but my own kids does too but hold up - can l just ask where they play Crash Bandicoot? I used to love that game!!

Mine are driving me loopy this week - but it's half term, and par for the course I think.

That said, DH and DDogs are also driving me mad, so to coin the MN phrase, it could possibly be that I don't have a DSC problem, I have a ME problem 🤨