If your partner didn't text you for days

[RajaGemini]

Say they were really busy with work or on holiday, and they didn't text you for 3/4 days straight when you've usually been texting every day, been together for a few months. How would you feel ?

5 months in you should still be realy excited to text each other and hear form the other person, no amount of work or other commitments would distract you from reaching out to the person your interested in sonim going to say hes lost interest in this case

Its the consistency that matters isn't it? If my partner was text phobic I wouldn't give it a second thought. But if he was a prolific messager and then went quiet it might rattle me a bit.

He's busy with work. Maybe has nothing to say. More relaxed re texting as the relationship progresses. What's the point of texting for the sake of it. I wouldn't hold him random for not texting for a few days especially during a busy work time.

A quick love you/miss you would suffice. Nobody is too busy to check in on somebody they care about!

I'd presume he was planning on breaking up with me.

Depends I think. If he just went cold suddenly I’d be thinking he wanted out and wouldn’t contact him until he contacted me

But if he said ahead of time that he would be busy until X day. Then I’d be ok with it

It’s all about communication

Stop playing games.

Ooh I wontessahe until he does and them of he does I'll wait 3 hours before I reply and blah blah blah.

Hey Steve, how's work going? You've been quiet the last few days but wondered if you were up for a chat later

I sent a casual text before and he replied as normal so not sure.

He could literally text you while he is on the toilet. I find it unbelievable that someone could be That busy. Anyone could find 10 seconds if they wanted to.

So where were all the pictures from he's been posting?

It probably wouldn't bother me if I felt secure in the relationship, but it doesn't sound like you do if there's been a couple of issues already.

What would bother me is him saying he's been obsessed with when you're online. What!? Weird and doubly weird to tell you.

Stop obsessing over it, it is just as likely that he is genuinely focussed and stressed.

When you next have a chance to talk using your voices, let him know that it's really important to you that you hear from him at least once a day. Explain to him that you do understand his stress and you care about his needs but you also have needs and concerns for yourself.

If he doesn't change his behaviour after that then you could reconsider whether he cares about you.

It's so silly jumping to conclusions about affairs or breaking up. It is much more likely that his mind is filled with this new situation and he is focused on that. He might need to be told explicitly to be make time for your needs when in a serious relationship, but then you may need to be told explicitly to be more understanding of his limitations under stress - who knows, these are things you discuss over the phone or in person not over text.