AIBU about sharing lottery win - hypothetical 🤣

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So me and DH having another hypothetical debate so clear this up - who is being unreasonable.

talking about what we would do if won’t the lottery.
Now we are both close with our families, I have 1 child already and 1 on the way with him ( he is not first child’s dad ) however we getting married in a years time.
He automatics responded with “ give my brother half “
I was like what about my sister though surely we would be splitting it equal ( personally I think half is way to much to give one person )
He was like well it’s if I won the lottery so his brother would get half and then we as a family would have half ?
I think this is bonkers, I am also aware that this is hypothetical haha and we are not screaming at each other over it but who is right ? 🤣

The first rule of winning the lottery is tell no one.

If you do win, tell your partner is brother can fuck off.

Well you would end up asking if some of the family share could go to your sister. So the family would actually be left with less than the brother.

Why would he give half to his brother? Are they in some kind of syndicate?

Just make sure you buy the winning ticket

No chance, we would give the siblings a set amount but there’s is no way I’d give them half! We have 4 siblings between us , that’s a hell of a lot of money to hand over.

The difference is that he seems to see it as if his £2 bought the ticket in Sainsbury's so he gets to decide where it goes. Ask him if you physically bought the ticket he would be happy with half to your sister and half to your family?

I'd immediately see it as joint money.

If any of my sibs won the lottery I know they'd give me fuck all so that's exactly what I'd give them 🤣

In fact, they wouldn't tell me - and I wouldn't blame them

Absolutely no way on this planet I would allow DH to give half of a massive multi million pound lotto win to his brother.
I would rather hide the lotto win and divorce him. (really really realllllly don't like his brother and what he stands for)
So yeah. I'm with you. No chance. 😂

Wtf?? Half to his brother and then half to you as a family?? That's madness, I'd be taking charge of the lottery tickets in your house

My husband and I regularly play this game.

A significant amount to siblings and his parents. Some ad-hoc family who are in need would get some.

Charity.

Trusts for our children who have additional needs.

Then a spend up

Also if he buys them you should borrow steal them from his wallet and sign the back of the ticket just in case not joking the mad bastard brought it on himself

Suggest you give half to his brother and half to your sister.

I have given this a lot of thought-still flipping penniless though- and here's my strategy: say we win ten million, we each get 5, we put a million each into a family money account, to buy a house and have loads left over, and we can share what's left with our side of the family however we like.
So I'm all set, just need to win it now!

I would say if me and fiancé won it would be joined winnings so all immediate families would get the same so both set of parents, my grandmother, and his siblings would get an equal amount

There is no chance I would give my sibling half. There is also no chance I would be fine with DH giving his sibling half.

Where we live, university is unreasonably expensive. I would set up generous education trust funds for my nieces and nephews. That would be a huge gift for our
siblings and a big weight off their shoulders. That would be the extent of my automatic extended family funding.

I worked with a lady who won about 400k...she paid off her sisters mortgage about 80k, took 4 family members on a fab holiday around the carribean and kept the rest....its not a huge sum to win really...she worked only 2 days a week so used the money to live off....!

Nice to know now that your husband would rather leave his brother with more money than his own family I guess.. Considering you'd then give some of the family money to your sister.

He's an idiot.

Any significant win would go to DH and me only. We would give our mothers a nice lump sum each for them to live on very comfortably but no one else in the family. Neither of our siblings deserves it. Depending on the size of the win, i.e. a very large amount, we would give a certain amount to 3 of our closest friends to pay off their mortgages but we would not tell anyone the actual size of our win and keep things vague. I would also pay a decent amount to 4 animal rescue groups. DH and I would give no one else in our families a penny.

My DH wouldn't even tell his brother that he had won a tenner never mind millions.

DH has come up with an algorithm for if we win the lottery and how to split it up. We’re talking a £20m+ win (he sets his sights high!).
He desperately wants to win to see the reaction of the lottery people!

Is it a normal sibling relationship or did his brother give him a kidney or bone marrow or something? FYI neither of our siblings would get anything near half.

Your DP is VU. Half to his brother? Why? So if you want to give half to your sister, that leaves you nothing. He’s stupid to say that.

Unless he is in some sort of syndicate with his brother, and they both put in the ticket money and buy the tickets as a joint thing, then that is an odd way of thinking.

I'd like to think that if I won unlikely as I don't buy a ticket I'd be generous and help out various friends and family members (depending how much I won), but it would be at our discretion, and would depend on a LOT of factors (not least, how much I won), and it certainly wouldn't be 1/2. to one of our siblings.

How on earth has he reached that logic ?

If the win was around the million mark, I would like to buy my brother a new car... But his is 13years old. Money earmarked for both our neices. Pay off our mortgage. Nice holiday (including grandparents). Invest the rest to build up money for our DDs.

Bigger wins, we would be more generous

Oh I think it is quite sweet that he would automatically give his brother half of his hypothetical money.