AIBU about sharing lottery win - hypothetical 🤣

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So me and DH having another hypothetical debate so clear this up - who is being unreasonable.

talking about what we would do if won’t the lottery.
Now we are both close with our families, I have 1 child already and 1 on the way with him ( he is not first child’s dad ) however we getting married in a years time.
He automatics responded with “ give my brother half “
I was like what about my sister though surely we would be splitting it equal ( personally I think half is way to much to give one person )
He was like well it’s if I won the lottery so his brother would get half and then we as a family would have half ?
I think this is bonkers, I am also aware that this is hypothetical haha and we are not screaming at each other over it but who is right ? 🤣

I think it’s sweet that he’d give half to his brother, I’m sure his mum would be proud!

For me it depends how much the win is.

If it was a huge euromillions win with something insane like 80 million then I would probably give my immediate family members 10 million each and I would also give at least 10 million to charity.

If it was something like 1 million or less then there’s not a chance I’d be giving a family member half. I’d probably give my mum and sister 100k each

We had this conversation years ago. We ended up agreeing (regardless of who bought the ticket) that half would immediately be allocated as our household funds and would be joint spending ... New house, cars, holidays, kids bank accts etc

The remaining half would be split equally between me and DH, and each would be able to distribute to their family as they see fit

I wouldn't even tell most of my family, they'd all want handouts.

It sounds like he thinks the win would be his to decide what to do with. Is he like this about real money?

DH and I also like to plan this in great detail, we'd win 10 million - then its 6 million for us, 1 million each for DBro and BIL, 1 million for my DPs and 1 million for PILs.

Winning 1 million could be trickier as tbh there are normal family houses where we live that cost that! I'd feel guilty keeping all of it so maybe would keep £800k for ourselves and give everyone £50k each.

I love this game!
I love my brother but I've never considered giving him half, I'd still give him enough to pay off mortgage etc, I'd give some to my parents too. DH doesn't have siblings and his parents are well off.
But most of all I'd love a castle 🏰 , so basically a humble life for me not much would change at all

So he gives your brother half of the total. You say you give your sister the other half then. Back to normality for you.

See what he says. It seems odd he seems to think he controls it all and his brother has priority over everyone and, unless you give no one anything, would end up with more than you, the winners, and everyone else.

That is totally unaceptable.
My 2 siblings and I talked about this once with a estimation of winning around 8 million. My sister said she would give each of us £15,000 and keep the rest, ( that would work out as less than .13% of the winnings) but my brother said as he had 4 children there would not be any left for us as all 6 of them would have equal shares. It seriously made me think about my idea of giving them each £1m and money for my neices and nephews.

We have had this discussion.
We wouldn't tell anybody, especially how much.

DH is much more generous than me and some of his family are just absolute blatant spongers so my plan would be:

Divide money into thirds - use one third to pay mortgage/debts/put away for kids.

DH & I take one third and distribute to our own family as we wish. Any left over goes back into the family pot.

Obviously that would be winnings in excess of what we needed as a family, if we won £1m everyone would get a token amount after we had sorted out our own essentials.

I think my main argument was is how comes his family is the only side that matters, what happened to my side haha he is like but me and my brother always said we would
( for what it’s worth his brother would no way give him half ) 🤣

Half to his brother and half to you, him, your DC, your sister and everyone one else? He really can't see that's ridiculous?!

It sounds like a childish oath mad while young, that he hasn't put any thought into (such as now having his own responsibilities).

When my df /sm won big she refused to share as she wrote the ticket out.. Took 2 years before she agreed to give df any.
I am an only dc. Sm has none. They have none together.
Afaik all that was bought was a modest house.
Never been invited.