To find it creepy that my ex's gf posts pics of my DD

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I have a 6yoDD , she goes to her dad's every other weekends. X has been in a relationship for a year , ans I have been with my bf for 4 years. X and I are still friends and get on very well.

I have X and his gf on Facebook. She posted pics of my DD before. Her with her father or the 3 of them. I didn't mind really.

Then about a week ago she started posting on her account pics of my DD sleeping with captions like " The love of my life ... The person I love the most in the world" ... Remember this is her PRIVATE account. Her profile pic is my DD.

She posted baby pics of her that her dad has , but on the pics DD is always alone. At least if it was the 3 of them or X and DD I'd understand.

I didn't say anything , wanted some opinions first. AIBU to find it creepy ?

Hi Op to me it seems your ex partner comes across as OTT, desperate needy,insecure to make a good impression to the outside world on social media, I agree with other posters choose personal battles its really good she is really into supportive of the idea of blended families.
You need to have a chat with ex partner to say you are concerned photos of your daughter on her on his partner is worrying you a bit as you don't know if strangers could see them and their are odd balls weirdos men out there and you don't want strangers to view photos of your daughter as you have to be careful these days for peace of mind security.
Obviously tell him you appreciate that his partner thinks a lot of your daughter, just prefer to have more family group photos included in mix of photos to of your daughter and to ask that you prefer your ex partner has family photos on private setting on facebook if she hasn't done this yet?but be careful how you go about saying so not create any misunderstandings in any way tho.

Yes, I think that's taking it too far.

My ex gf bothered with my child until she had her own she's probably doing it because she's jealous of you.

Well if your ex is okay with it I don't think there's anything you can do and for the sake of good relations I'd probably not say anything but yeah, I'd find it a bit odd.

@Orkneys

My ex gf bothered with my child until she had her own she's probably doing it because she's jealous of you.

Projection much.

@StoneColdBitch

What would you prefer - your ex's girlfriend loving your DD (even if it makes you feel a bit threatened), or your ex having a partner who dislikes and resents your daughter and encourages ex to spend less time with his child?

Do you honestly think those are the only two options when a couple separate?

I’m with you OP, it’s not appropriate. I have never posted a picture of my kids on Facebook, and I would not be happy if someone else did it. Who knows who is accessing them

Is she quite young OP?

My ex got a much younger GF when we split up and she was very intense and OTT, I think she was just a bit insecure and out of her depth and went for it hammer and tongs.
They didn't last but she was actually one of his better girlfriends.

Kids and cats get the most likes on social media... is she young?

One of my friends without kids said once that without a cat or a cute kid she doesn't get likes! Some people like this kinda thing and think it's important.

I dont think its massively weird. I can also understand why it would unsettle you a bit, but I think at least she loves the kid. Could be worse.

It’s weird as fuck...

The pictures of all 3 of them or a few pictures of a day out etc is fine....

But having it as her profile picture and adding the captions is bat shit. I wouldn’t be impressed.

She’s going over the top with it.

It’s very highly likely that your dd isn’t the love of her life. That’s why the FB comments are so cringey. She doesn’t need to be saying stuff like this to show how good she is towards your dd.

I do feel sorry for her. She has nothing to prove to anybody by saying stuff like this.

This could be my cousin she does this of her bfs kid making out shes a fab step mum then moans how annoying she is when the bfs not in earshot. YANBU OP.

So weird. Imagine if genders were reversed and it was mother’s boyfriend posting these comments 😱 that would definitely be seen as mega creepy so really this should too!

I’d actually tell him it’s weirding you out a bit.

But I agree there will be a pregnancy on the horizon

@MootingMirror

I think you need to pick your battles. Your ex is with someone who cherishes your daughter and is proud to be in her life - who is being harmed by this? MN hates step-parents so she'll probably get flamed but I think she sounds like a great person to look after your daughter when you aren't present.

This. Completely