To find it creepy that my ex's gf posts pics of my DD

[Pktjrsmoi]

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I have a 6yoDD , she goes to her dad's every other weekends. X has been in a relationship for a year , ans I have been with my bf for 4 years. X and I are still friends and get on very well.

I have X and his gf on Facebook. She posted pics of my DD before. Her with her father or the 3 of them. I didn't mind really.

Then about a week ago she started posting on her account pics of my DD sleeping with captions like " The love of my life ... The person I love the most in the world" ... Remember this is her PRIVATE account. Her profile pic is my DD.

She posted baby pics of her that her dad has , but on the pics DD is always alone. At least if it was the 3 of them or X and DD I'd understand.

I didn't say anything , wanted some opinions first. AIBU to find it creepy ?

Bet you a tenner she's after proving her mummy credentials so X will agree to have a kid with her.

DING DING DINNNNG! 🛎

I think its creepy. A kid shes known for no more than a year is the love of her life? They should barely know eachother at this stage.

It's similar to how I speak about my niece, she is the light of my life. Just because you love a child doesn't mean you're 'playing mummy'.

If she treats your daughter well and loves her, I'd honestly just count your lucky stars.

What I find creepy are not so much the pictures but the captions.
e.g

• My beauty x The most precious thing I have in life
• My sleeping beauty waking up. I love you my princess

Me and X are good friends! He became a good friend of my boyfriend too.
She used to post a lot of pics of them 3 or of DD and her dad. I never said anything and wasn't bothered.

It makes me feel uneasy to see all those people I don't know commenting on pics of my DC. Or my ex gf posting pics every.single.day.

You know your niece though. She is related to you. Dd's dad gf has only been in my 6yo life the past 6-7 months ( X waited before introducing her).

To me she sounds massively insecure that he already has a child with someone else. You can only ignore, anything you say will seem mean and jeslous. Hopefully she'll become more normal once she's had her own.

Just have a think about what you could realistically do and what the result would be. If you ask her to stop then you'll look like the spiteful ex, your ex will take her side and it will ruin the nice dynamic you currently have.

After a year? That's bloody odd. Creepy.

A few pictures would be fine, but this sounds ott.

Shes faking being being a great step mum. Maybe she wants your ex to propose.

She sounds pretty strange to me. Desperate to give the impression that there's more of a relationship than there is in reality. I'd not be that happy about it, but I'd be hesitant to rock the boat too much. Something to keep an eye on, IMO.

I find people are over the top weird about the captions they put up about their own kids and partners, so I'd probably put this in the same category. She's just the kind of person who says things like that.

Sounds weird as fuck.

@Pktjrsmoi

You know your niece though. She is related to you. Dd's dad gf has only been in my 6yo life the past 6-7 months ( X waited before introducing her).

So she's seen her, what, a dozen or so weekends if he has EOW contact? Yeah, she's ridiculous.

I wouldn't post that mawkish shit about my own kids! Let alone one id known less than a year.

Very odd. I think you should get a say in whether she posts pictures of your daughter on her profile.

Methinks the lady doth protest too much. She reminds me of my BIL's ex. She used to make a huge fuss of the little boy he already had until they were married and she had her own son.

I mean I would find that type of post gross even if it were a parent posting it about their own child. Bit OTT isn’t it!

Is she like that about everything she posts though? Some people just put shit like that on social media all the time.

I’d probably leave it for now but I would find it a bit oddly intense. I don’t think you should ask her not to post photos, unless you are actually someone who limits there child’s social media footprint or unless there is some wider issue.

I'd have a word with your ex. Just say you do t want to make a big deal of it but you find it a bit odd.

TBH I find it a bit odd when birth mums post this stuff on social media. Makes me gag a bit...

@Leaannb dad is OK with it but mum isn't so that needs hashed out. Gf of a year doesn't get a say here.

She sounds broody to me.

I'd pick my battles and this would be one of them. It's odd. And it's odd that she doesn't realise it's odd.

I think it’s over the top as well but at least you get on with ex and it looks like she lives your daughter which is a good thing But shouldn’t be trying to replace you I hope. I don’t Think Yanbu Though

I would have a quiet word with her, she hasn’t had your permission to put up the pics on social media, so you are allowed by law to get her to take them off.

So a really good friend of mine just split up with her boyfriend, he had two kids that he had 50% custody of. She absolutely fell in love with those kids, she’s in her late 30’s and had never exierirnced that kind if family life before. IMO she did get a bit intense with it, referring to them as her step daughters when she wasn’t married to their dad and being really gushing on social media. I don’t know what their mum would have made of it- I guess she might feel a bit like you and I wouldn’t blame her. What I will say about my friend though is that she was an amazing presence in those kids lives, she took them to do lovely things and truly adored them, she did more with them than their fairly useless dad. I think asking the girlfriend to blur out the kids faces would be reasonable (my friend did do this out of respect) but having someone else that really loves your daughter is actually a beautiful thing, although I can understand that it hurts.