AIBU asking family not to hold the baby so much

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We are in a support bubble with DP's mum as she is a single parent with kids under 18.

We visit around 3 times per week. Dd is 10 weeks old and from the moment we arrive someone will grab the baby out of her car seat and she is passed around until we leave. This means baby is asleep for the majority of the day on people's laps. So when it comes to the night she doesn't want to sleep. I'm having a nightmare getting her to sleep because she's not as tired as she normally would be. When I'm at home I don't constantly cuddle the baby. She is normally in her rocker or in her moses basket, because I don't want her to cry to be held constantly.

AIBU to ask that DP's family not cuddle her for the entire visit. I feel horrible asking, because I know they're excited to see dd, but I'm struggling with sleep deprivation.

@Imworthit

Didn't say my resentment was good, just being honest. If you couldn't see your neice you'd feel hurt too. It's not like I'd ever tell her how sad it made me. Treat her any different. She doesn't need to know how much I cried about it but I still get you feel however I do. Telling me I'm unreasonable doesn't stop it hurting.

You poor, poor thing, I'm so sorry your sister in law didn't think about your feelings while she was dealing with navigating unbearable grief, PND and a newborn. That must have been a truly awful thing for you to go through.

@Imworthit I have so much sympathy for your SIL. I hope the rest of your family are more considerate of her perspective and the stress she must be under.

OP you sound lovely. It gets easier I always found it impossible to sleep when my newborns napped every little noise would wake me it is nice to relax in your home when you have help at home.
Tell your OH less visits more home time if he is bored at home give him a list.

OP,
Good advice here but do try and rest a bit when the baby does.

Sleep deprivation is a killer.

Mind yourself