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I didn't chose this. Your mum chose this **Content warning MNHQ**

45 replies

Imworthit · 24/10/2020 17:37

To be so completely discussed with the man saying his wife chose to be killed because she cheated.

I feel like I should have sympathy but It's the opitomy of Narcissistism. Children are parentless because of his pride and he's crying to them like a baby on TV! Get a divorce, take responsibility for your own actions/reactions. Don't blame someone for your fucked up decisions. It really turns my stomach.

Lots of people have hurt me so very badly and strangely there all alive. Really wish I hadn't watched that 😢

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stackemhigh · 24/10/2020 17:40

Link? He killed her?

Smallsteps88 · 24/10/2020 17:42

What?

AvoidingRealHumans · 24/10/2020 17:45

That video made me feel sick. Telling them its their mums fault for his choice to murder her, whats scarier is that he actually believes it was the mums fault.

TeaSoakedDisasterMagnet · 24/10/2020 17:48

What are you talking about?

stackemhigh · 24/10/2020 17:48

Well googled it and what a cunt. Those crocodile tears! Why am I not surprised that it’s Texas. Hope he gets the chair.

BedsAreBurning · 24/10/2020 17:49

What, what now?

ZaraW · 24/10/2020 17:49

A link would be helpful.

Thatwentbadly · 24/10/2020 17:49

I have no idea what you are talking about?

lesleyw1953 · 24/10/2020 17:53

@Thatwentbadly

I have no idea what you are talking about?
There is a new item about a man who killed his wife because she cheated on him .He made a video for his kids saying it was not his choice - she cheated so it was her fault
riotlady · 24/10/2020 17:54

What are you talking about?

Cheeseandlobster · 24/10/2020 17:55

Me me me. I am hurting so bad. My hair is a mess. Why me? Wtaf? Not ONCE did he mention the implications on those poor fucking children who now have neither of their parents. I am horrified.

RunningFromInsanity · 24/10/2020 17:58

Very few murderers turn around and say they were in the wrong...

contrmary · 24/10/2020 17:58

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MaxNormal · 24/10/2020 18:10

you know you are playing with fire

You're actually justifying this? How.... biblical.

Mintychoc1 · 24/10/2020 18:13

@contrmary

Not sure what you're talking about, but as a principle (rather than your specific case) it's understandable, to an extent, that a partner who has been cheated upon reacts very badly to their unfaithful partner. Your point "don't blame someone for your fucked up decisions" applies equally to the partner who cheated - if you decide to cheat on someone, rather than have the decency to end your relationship with them first, you know you are playing with fire.

Not that cheating excuses murder, but there is a reason sentences are lighter for someone who kills in a fit of passion than a cold, calculating person who kills for the enjoyment of it.

Wow that’s a scary post. So you think that someone who cheats on a partner should expect some kind of physical retribution?
caughtalightsneeze · 24/10/2020 18:14

@stackemhigh

Well googled it and what a cunt. Those crocodile tears! Why am I not surprised that it’s Texas. Hope he gets the chair.
I think he deserves a pretty severe punishment, but I don't think that particular one would help his children.

I'm horrified to think that this narcissism and pride have resulted in a situation that might easily see them disappear into the care system and all the horrors that might lurk there. And he prefers that option to the bruised ego that goes along with being cheated on. What an utter scumbag he is.

KurtansCurtains · 24/10/2020 18:21

Not sure what you're talking about, but as a principle (rather than your specific case) it's understandable, to an extent, that a partner who has been cheated upon reacts very badly to their unfaithful partner. Your point "don't blame someone for your fucked up decisions" applies equally to the partner who cheated - if you decide to cheat on someone, rather than have the decency to end your relationship with them first, you know you are playing with fire

What the fuck?! Are you serious?

MadameTuffington · 24/10/2020 18:21

Middle aged man of questionable attractiveness marries younger, hotter bird and situ implodes - nothing to see here ...

ScrambledSmegs · 24/10/2020 18:21

There's only his word for it that she had cheated. For all we know he's paranoid as well as a murderer.

Personally I'm loathe to take the word of a murderer without corroborating evidence.

Bailey0703 · 24/10/2020 18:26

@contrmary

Not sure what you're talking about, but as a principle (rather than your specific case) it's understandable, to an extent, that a partner who has been cheated upon reacts very badly to their unfaithful partner. Your point "don't blame someone for your fucked up decisions" applies equally to the partner who cheated - if you decide to cheat on someone, rather than have the decency to end your relationship with them first, you know you are playing with fire.

Not that cheating excuses murder, but there is a reason sentences are lighter for someone who kills in a fit of passion than a cold, calculating person who kills for the enjoyment of it.

That comment is so batshit and fucked yo that I barely know where to start . However here are a few ideas ..

If your relationship is unhappy because of the behaviour of one partner - YOU LEAVE THEM ..

To even begin to try and justify the taking of another persons life because they have 'upset' you (to whatever degree) is UN justifiable for ANY reason. There are no degrees of mitigation except that of self defence. And it's clear that this was not a factor .

acatscauldron · 24/10/2020 18:26

"I told her not to mess with my emotions"

Sounds pretty chilling and my guess is that he was quite the controlling kind.

Their daughter would be justified to tell him to fuck off for the rest of his life.

Gingernaut · 24/10/2020 18:26

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8873309/Texas-man-shoots-kills-wife-uploads-video-Facebook-trying-justify-it.html

There's no proof of his wife's adultery at all.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 24/10/2020 18:29

@contrmary

Not sure what you're talking about, but as a principle (rather than your specific case) it's understandable, to an extent, that a partner who has been cheated upon reacts very badly to their unfaithful partner. Your point "don't blame someone for your fucked up decisions" applies equally to the partner who cheated - if you decide to cheat on someone, rather than have the decency to end your relationship with them first, you know you are playing with fire.

Not that cheating excuses murder, but there is a reason sentences are lighter for someone who kills in a fit of passion than a cold, calculating person who kills for the enjoyment of it.

Nonsense. Somebody reassure me this is not true in 2020 in the UK. This man has deprived his children of both of their parents. No amount of hurt pride and pain of betrayal justifies that.

Even in earlier times, I doubt very much that the extremely rare instances of a woman who killed an unfaithful partner in a fit of passion resulted in a more lenient sentence than a case where the woman was proved to have planned it in advance. The ingrained sexism here is huge. Woman is seen as man's property. Woman who kills her partner is breaching all the gender stereotypes bearing down on women, commanding them to be kind, put themselves last, accept that boys will be boys etc etc. I believe it's an established fact that women convicted of violent crimes get more severe sentences than men.

And then we move on to the much, much more common case where a woman is unfaithful and her partner finds out and is not only hurt but also shamed - everyone is laughing at him! He couldn't keep his woman under control. She has to be punished, so he can prove he is a real man after all, by killing someone who is physically less strong than he is.

Morally, infidelity is bad, but to state the blindingly obvious it doesn't justify her outraged partner killing her. Nothing could justify that, especially where there are children involved.

Quietlyloud · 24/10/2020 18:30

It’s pretty typical of that type of man isn’t it? It’s a shame but I’m not surprised the murdering twat is blaming the woman he killed for his own actions. Gross.