Posted about it on my old account over a year ago now and it's still going on. The gym instructor who I think is engaged and has been with his partner for 4/5 years.
Since around August 2019, I have had almost daily conversations about it with said friend.
Constantly repeating the same thing over and over "He does like me but feels too guilty about leaving his fiancé."
Yes, there are times when he seems flirty for sure. Maybe he is interested, but the point I am trying to get across is that this has been going on for over one year now.
If he were really into my friend, he would likely already be with her, yet he's with the fiancée.
Honestly, if it were my boyfriend who liked another girl and she was actively trying to get with him, I would be fuming. I have already been in this position twice which my friend knows.
She's very dismissive of cheating and this kinda thing, "sometimes it's not that black and white and you meet people who are a better match for you."
I sympathise that she cannot help liking him, and that it is hard to meet people. Before meeting my boyfriend, I had a very hard time, so I really do sympathise.
But it's constant analysis of texts," what does this text mean ? "." He's been weird with me for weeks, why is he doing that ?"
"I don't know what he would see in me anyway."
Constant, day in day out. Every time I try to give advice that is to move on and look for someone single, I get a barrage of essays about why she likes him, she's very down, he's great, it's so hard to meet people etc. And she needs my support.
When a guy dumped me last year, she banned me from talking about it the same day, because 'we had spoken about it enough'.
Also the fiancée is apparently 'jealous', 'way more into him than he is to her, he's only with her out of habit' (He hasn't told her this, this is something she's come up with.)
Don't want to sound horrible, but any ideas what I could do/say ? I just think for 35 it's ridiculous.