To feel a bit sad that my coworker finds me annoying

[peasantfolk]

I have recently started a new job, along with someone else that started on the same day as me. We're both doing the same job.

My coworker is very driven, organised and straight to the point (in a good way).

I come across as a bit dithery and blundering. So I can totally understand why I annoy her and see her point of view.

I know not everyone has to like me and that's fine. But still, it makes me a little bit sad. I think it's because I feel guilty that I'm an annoyance to her.

AIBU?

I think I would find this sort of behaviour annoying too. You've created a problem.

It was a joke. It wasn't sarcastic or mean but your response was extremely PA.

Something in that maybe? Maybe your own insecurities make you see things that aren't there.

I wasn't being mean - you thought I was.

Your colleague has never said anything to you - you 'feel' that you're annoying her...

I would find it annoying too. If your mistakes are causing other people re work you are probably annoying them too.

She might like you as a person but not as a colleague. Plus not everyone wants to make friends at work

Sorry misread your post about making mistakes that impact others
You just sound like different people and maybe your reading to much into it

After seeing your update - I think you’re over thinking this and your insecurity around your speech is adding to this.

She hasn’t actually been mean to you or said anything. You don’t have to be bffs at work. As you’ve said you’re good at your job - that’s what work is for! Working! It’s not a friendship group or a popularity contest.

Have more confidence in yourself op, life is too short to worry about everyone liking you

So you just THINK she finds you annoying? We all have our faults - you recognise yours and that's a healthy thing. Maybe some of her faults are lacking in patience and not being able to work as part of a team with people who bring different things to the job.
Just a thought....

She’s not all that great if she’s rude enough to allow her annoyance to show.

She’s not all that great if she’s rude enough to allow her annoyance to show.

Or more likely OP is projecting and imagining and you're being less than helpful

@MatildaTheCat

She’s not all that great if she’s rude enough to allow her annoyance to show.

OP hasn’t given any indication that she’s making her annoyance known!

OP hasn’t given any indication that she’s making her annoyance known!

she hasn't directly told me she finds me annoying but I can just sense it from her non-verbal communication/body language/little things she says

Yes she has

I just have some problems with speech which make me sound a bit dithering and hesitant when I talk.

Are you saying you have a speech impediment/difficulty? That is an entirely different ball game and if so, should have gone in the OP.

* Are you saying you have a speech impediment/difficulty? That is an entirely different ball game and if so, should have gone in the OP.*

^This. You would have had more sympathetic responses if you have. I have similar issues and it can make me self-conscious at times.