Would it BU at the moment.......

[MrsWarleggan]

DH is utterly miserable in his job at the moment. I'm not talking every day, "my job is rubbish" kind of miserable, I'm talking "Every day is an effort to get up and go to this god forsaken hell hole and work with these arseholes that have made start taking anti depressants, underpaid and under appreciated" type of miserable.

However..... In the current economic situation the job is considered safe.

He has had his CV on many a CV library in his field for many months. Yesterday he receives a call from a company. They want him. Tiny bit more money, but more commuting so he would be earning the same, maybe even slightly less....They called again today... They really want him.

However...... Is now the right time to be going for a new job?

I want him to be happy. I really really really do. I want him to come home with a smile on his face for the kids, rather than a huff and go straight to the kitchen for a cider.

We have a young family. If he leaves his safe job and gets made redundant in 6 months we would be well and truly screwed. But, I want him to be happy!!!!!!

AIBU - Stick with safe job and be thoroughly miserable for the next 6-12 months and see how covid/economy pans out.

YABU - Go for new job. Run the risk of being made redundant, but he may finally be happy for the 1st time in a year?

I've been going mad thinking this over. It's time for outside opinions!

Go!!!

Hopefully there will be more opportunities where he is offered.

It sounds like he needs to get the hell out of where he is!!

Why cant you still buy a house? Covid is here to stay. People are still buying and selling houses?

@Waveysnail

With our deposit and the area we need we need the longest mortgage term possible to make it affordable. Because of Covid DH's substantial overtime has been wiped out. If we had got our deposit money by January/February this year we would have been fine. Not so much now 🙄

Op - I'd far rather a happy healthy husband and father than a new house and a husband that unhappy on a day to day basis - I would feel awful that he was making himself Ill to provide me with a 'better' house

@Mydogmylife

The obsession with house buying isn't mine, it's his. To him if he can buy his own house he has succeeded. It's a status symbol to him. All his friends have mortgages, he doesn't and to him that means he's a failure. I would quite happily carry on renting. Atleast if the boiler goes we don't have to pay for it!!

Given the back story, I would take the new job. He's miserable, he's been screwed over and now they're bullying him. No-one knows how long Covid will go on for - it could be another year at least. He has a chance to get out of there, and I would take it.

If it goes wrong, could you up your hours to full time as a back-up plan? At least while he job hunts again?

He should take the new job. I am amazed you are even thinking he should be miserable for the next six to twelve months.

If they really want him can he negotiate the pay