To think OH should take DS to nursery??

[ihate2020]

I wake up at 5 for work and I'm home for 11:30 I have an hours commute in total by time I'm home I'm knackered. Everyday I get back DS is still in pyjamas I have to get him dresssed and take him.

All I ask is when I get back from work I can have a little lie down and OH takes DS AIBU? Or at least a few days a week.

YANBU. Your DH sounds lazy as fuck.

If you are the only one working then your OH is being very lazy. He should have your DS up and dressed and get him off to nursery so you can get home then have a cuppa and some lunch in peace.

I think you know the answer to your own question. I suspect he isn’t pulling his weight with the cleaning, cooking, shopping and everything in between either?

Well if DH isn't working then yes of course he should take him to nursery.

Why isn't DP working? Obviously he should be doing this.

Have you spoken with him about it?

Blimey so DH doesn’t work, doesn’t get up in the night with your DD and your DS is still not dressed by nearly lunchtime. What does your DH do? I hope he cooks, cleans and sorts a lot of other stuff out!

Why are men so fucking useless.

Well if he's not working I'd be getting him to get up with DD, but going to assume it's a breastfeeding reason?

If OH isn't working, why are you doing all the night wakings?

He needs to be pulling his weight.

But why not think of the nursery run as a chance to get to spend a bit of time with him and then home to rest for a few hours?

If he's not working he should be doing most of the childcare, housework etc etc. So yes, he should be taking DS to nursery.

Well he's not working so he should be doing it. Have you tried actually saying you're not doing it and he needs to do it?

OP, why are you so downtrodden that you’re putting up with this?

Well as he's the SAHP yes he should be taking DS to nursery on the days you work if you both want him to go, bit I'm assuming he doesn't want him there? Are you paying for it?

What would happen if you didn't get home until 12 or 12.30?

I'd tell DP either he takes him on your work days or you pull him from nursery. Either way, when you come in you're having a sleep when you get in.

Does he do anything around the house / with DS ?

discuss this with your husband. yes it sounds unreasonable that he isn't getting the child dressed in the morning. presumably he does manage to give the child/children their breakfast?

Why isn’t he doing any of this if he’s not working?

Are you doing the nights because dd is a bf baby? If not he should be doing them.

He should definitely be getting ds dressed and to nursery.

YANBU.
He should sharing the overnights and taking DS to nursery.
Sounds like a lazy fucker!

Does he do anything at all? If not, why keep him?

Fgs of course the non working parent should be sorting things like breakfast, dressing, nursery runs etc.

How disgustingly LAZY your DP is to leave his child in pjs until almost lunchtime - for you to come home and sort out.

How do you not physically heave when you look at such a man? Do you not recognise how lazy, ignorant, mean spirited and childish it is for him to palm all of this onto you, when he doesn’t even have a job?

Unless there’s a massive backstory like he has significant medical issues then YANBU and you need to consider if this is the person you want to spend your life with and more importantly who will will influence and teach your child(ren) to behave like cocklodging arseholes.

What a lazy useless fucker your partner is. Why are you with him?

You have one kid and only work 16 hours between you and you are arguing over this? Of course your DH to should have your DS dressed and ready for nursery and take his turn taking him there, but you both sound pretty lazy tbh.

@Angelina82

You have one kid and only work 16 hours between you and you are arguing over this? Of course your DH to should have your DS dressed and ready for nursery and take his turn taking him there, but you both sound pretty lazy tbh.

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How does OP sound lazy? She’s up through the night multiple times and has to leave before 6am for work.

I take it you don’t currently get up with a young child multiple times during the night? And if you ever have, you’ve forgotten how soul destroying and exhausting it is. I am currently doing it and I would happily shove your head up your backside if you dared to call me lazy because sometimes I want my partner to pick up the slack.

It’s not fucking lazy to feel dejected when you get home from work after probably 4/5 max hours sleep and your child is still not washed and dressed.

Unbelievable.

@2020iscancelled

How does OP sound lazy? She’s up through the night multiple times and has to leave before 6am for work.

I take it you don’t currently get up with a young child multiple times during the night? And if you ever have, you’ve forgotten how soul destroying and exhausting it is. I am currently doing it and I would happily shove your head up your backside if you dared to call me lazy because sometimes I want my partner to pick up the slack.

It’s not fucking lazy to feel dejected when you get home from work after probably 4/5 max hours sleep and your child is still not washed and dressed.

Unbelievable.

Plenty of people get up in the night with children and work FULL time, not 20% of full time like OP does. Plenty of people are single parents and work full time. OP shares her childcare (although DP needs to step up, he is actually looking after the child whilst OP is at work) and barely actually works herself AND her child is in nursery in the afternoons. So, she has every afternoon child free and off work - and three days a week off work on top of that. And is still moaning about being exhausted....