We've had a support bubble with my parents for childcare for our toddler. My brother and his family have had one with his parents in law. This weekend, my parents had my brother's kids over for a sleepover. Fair enough, they wanted to see their other grandchildren as they've missed them terribly. But then Mum called to say my niece has told her she's been tested for COVID and not had the results back yet. I was understandably concerned.
I asked when they'd have the results, as if positive, Mum & Dad would need to isolate and we'd need to know to change plans. I was told the results could take a while, so best to cancel any plans we had requiring childcare for next weekend and the one after.
Naturally, based on that response, I thought my Mum had spoken to my brother and confirmed that they were still waiting for results. Instead of jumping the gun and cancelling all our plans (we have a long overdue couple's spa day & lunch finally booked which had been last year's Christmas gift from my sister), I messaged my brother to ask if he could let us know as soon as the results were in.
I then get a furious phone call saying I'm selfish for making this about me, that they'd already received negative results, and why would I even think they'd send the kids, if that was the case. I tried to explain that the whole thing had been crossed wires and that I'd been led to believe the results were not in, but was met with verbal abuse and an abruptly ended phone call.
The thing that bothers me most is (aside from my brother's over-reaction), if my Mum hadn't even spoken to my brother, why she was willing to let me cancel all my plans just on the authority of my young niece? It makes me feel like she doesn't want to have our toddler next weekend and was looking for an excuse.
AIBU for having asked for confirmation based on what I knew at the time? Should I just cancel the plans anyway and assume my Mum doesn't want to have our toddler?