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Cannot even give this away for FREE!

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FirstTim3Mummy · 18/10/2020 15:07

My husband wants to bin these

I've tried to sell them but no one is interested. Cost us almost £50 from Amazon

My son is now on prescribed milk neocate so we don't need these anymore. All well in date and sealed apart from one opened box (the actual bags still unopened)

So I've tried to give away for free. On Facebook pages and marketplace. No one is interested!

My husband says as we cannot give away even for free he's binning them

IBU - husband should bin them
INBU - keep trying to find someone to give for free

Cannot even give this away for FREE!
OP posts:
davinns · 18/10/2020 15:35

Our local supermarket has a trolley near the exit for food bank plus lots of schools also do collections incase you have no luck in going direct to the food bank.

SWLondonTown · 18/10/2020 15:38

Freecycle?

Lookatthat · 18/10/2020 15:42

Donate to your local baby bank.

NRatched · 18/10/2020 15:42

Assuming still sealed, my local food bank would rip my arms off for these!

Also in the supermarkets here, there are 'donation baskets' where people will buy stuff and put them in them, for food bank type collections. Maybe one of those. If in date and sealed, better than the bin for sure.

SpeckledyHen · 18/10/2020 15:42

Don’t just donate it to a Foodbank without check they can take it . Not all Foodbanks want formula or baby food . Ask them first otherwise you are simply shift your problem!

Flatpackback · 18/10/2020 15:45

I bought the wrong baby milk for grandchild. The food bank were happy to take, though I did ring first and check.

sueelleker · 18/10/2020 15:46

Freecycle?

Wibblewobble99 · 18/10/2020 15:46

See if you have a baby bank near you - if in leeds, there’s one that will accept formula. Some baby basics don’t as it’s against breast feeding but they also don’t have the space to store etc. X

FinallyFluid · 18/10/2020 15:48

I had to take food supplements through a tube for six months, I had loads left over and the hospital didn't want them back, my friend who is a vet took the whole lot, they use it to feed dogs and cats when they are poorly and unable to eat.

NRatched · 18/10/2020 15:49

@AldiAisleofCrap

Majority of food banks , certainly the Trussel trust can’t accept formula as it goes against promoting breastfeeding. Not sure how they are expecting women to relactate when their baby is several months old and needs milk.
Thats a bit ridiculous. Some women actually can't breastfeed.

I get that its best to promote breastfeeding, but, saying you basically won't help women who can't/don't because you think breast is best or whatever is quite harsh?!

I was planning on doing it until the hospital staff scared the crap out of me by telling me DD was going to starve as I wasn't producing and she wouldn't latch properly, and a load of other stuff. They convinced me onto formula 24 hours after the birth. Took me abut a week to 'sort my head out' properly and realise they were talking shite, and decide I wanted to still do it. Which resulted in many many calls to doctors, midwife, etc. Finally an appointment with a 'lactation consultant' who put me on half a box of domperidone a day! Which resulted in a whole 3oz or so, from multiple pumpings for hours, including though the night! Stuck with that for a bit but did give up eventually and still hate the medical staff who lied to me (I think to make their jobs easier, as it was quicker to shove a bottle at me than actually help. I get they are overworked though) a bit. But yeah. I am lucky that I coudl afford the formula and stuff, but if I couldn't, don't see why I shouldn't be able to get help. Even if I did just chose not to do it, still think its harsh to not help because you disagree with someones choices tbh.

Luckily with DS, I knew. I was forearmed as it were and ready to fight. As it were, he latched literally seconds after he came out, so no issues at all. Hard to get him off tbh!

Went into a bit more detail than necessary, but that makes my blood boil tbh.

CaveMum · 18/10/2020 15:50

Find out if there is a Baby Bank near you - just like the already suggested Food Bank but specifically for baby/child related items. We have one near us and they’re always asking for nappies, formula, etc.

AliasGrape · 18/10/2020 15:51

We had a load of the ready made formula bottles left when our baby switched to a different type, none of the local foodbanks could accept them. There’s a local new mums Facebook page that I posted them on and someone private messaged me and collected them. Is there anything like that near you?

Himawarigirl · 18/10/2020 16:14

Download the Olio app and you can donate food and non food items locally super easily.

ChessieFL · 18/10/2020 16:16

If the food bank won’t take it you could see if it’s any use to any local animal charities for feeding baby animals.

Missandra · 18/10/2020 16:20

@AldiAisleofCrap

Majority of food banks , certainly the Trussel trust can’t accept formula as it goes against promoting breastfeeding. Not sure how they are expecting women to relactate when their baby is several months old and needs milk.
Our school regularly collect for our local Trussel trust food bank and they always accept baby formula it’s always on the list of items they are most in need of.
Aridane · 18/10/2020 16:23

Bin

Apandemicyousay · 18/10/2020 16:25

I donated unneeded build-up drinks and bits of medical stuff when my dad died to a charity called ‘hospices of hope’ who transport supplies to hospices in Eastern Europe. I’d imagine that formula would be on their list too. We had one of their charity shops nearby so could drop off there, but they have a central address for sending or for collection on their website. Will try to attach link.

www.hospicesofhope.co.uk/stoma-medical-supplies

hotcookie · 18/10/2020 16:25

Olio app is another option.

Rotundandhappy · 18/10/2020 16:25

Food bank or children’s centre. Do not bin them, for God’s sake. That would be an unforgivable waste and your H should feel pretty ashamed for even suggesting it.

mycatlovesmenotyou · 18/10/2020 16:28

I was going to say food bank or refuge or childrens centre. I know these places have to promote breastfeeding, but they can't let babies starve who are formula fed can they? I would ring around and check first though as others have said.

It is still a free country and a lot of people use formula for medical or personal reasons. They need just as much help as others and should not be discriminated against, because they are not doing anything wrong!.

goldenharvest · 18/10/2020 16:37

animal rescue centres, or dogs rescue maybe? theyd be able to look at the ingredients to see if they are suitable

Littleoldme52 · 18/10/2020 16:44

Donate to a food bank. Or do you know of someone that could really do with them maybe ?
Dont throw them away

HotPatootiebootie · 18/10/2020 16:55

@NRatched

Me too. I tried and tried and could barely produce a drop for my 4 babies. A few years after my youngest was born I found out that I have Sjögren's syndrome and that affects production of tears, saliva and can affect breast milk production too. I felt over whelming guilt for years after nurses and midwives telling me I clearly didn't want to breast feed and should adjust my priorities.

MsStillwell · 18/10/2020 17:04

Count yourself lucky. If it were my DP he'd be suggesting that that was dinner sorted for a couple of weeks.