To let them know I'm pregnant?

[chippedchocolate]

Hello. Recently (3 weeks ago) found out I'm pregnant with my 3rd DC, DP's 1st. Totally over the moon, still in slight denial, we've been trying for quite some time and had given up when out of the blue it happens. Coming up 9 weeks, booking in this week, scan mid November.

Question is - DP's dad + DSM are in the process of moving house - looking at about 250miles away. It's just fallen through this week - their sale and their onward purchase.

They've just called to ask if they can pop in today - they live just around the corner. All being well this could be first grandchild. AIBU to think that it might be an idea to let them know I'm pregnant? I know that generally, until the scan we shouldn't tell anyone - certainly we aren't telling my DC just yet - but what's the general consensus on that approach these days?

Oh no I'm so sorry OP Fingers crossed for you for the future xxx

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So sorry op. Wishing you strength. X

@chippedchocolate - Ubiquinol has been shown to increase the quality of eggs in older women, which is often the problem. It's the absorbable form of Q10. You need to take it for about three months before TTC and stop taking it when you get pregnant. Really best of luck.

Sorry for your loss, OP. Wishing you all the best for the future x

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤

Thank you @StepAwayFromGoogle - that sounds like a really good idea - do I talk to my GP or can I just buy it over the counter?

Thank you so much for your support. I do really appreciate your kindness. I feel so so sad today, so empty. I spoke to my doctor who was lovely and I tried to remain so pragmatic and so resolute. But the truth is this little "human" growing inside me represented so much love and so much hope.

I hope beyond hope that we can manage to conceive once more, and that next time the 'super glue' will work.

So sorry to hear that
Look after yourselves x

I told my parents and MIL after an early scan at 6 weeks. Also told our teenage children then, they knew something was up as I was so sick (and because eldest was worried I had cancer). Was planning to tell siblings etc after the scan. However we saw them at Christmas when I was suffering all day sickness so I just told them then (11 weeks).

@chippedchocolate - you can just buy it over the counter (I got mine on Amazon). GP unlikely to be much help - I ended up doing a lot of research myself and seeing a miscarriage specialist. I had three misscarriages between DD1 (now 5) and DD2 (now 2). It's is absolutely heartbreaking - I completely fell apart - so please be kind to yourself and let yourself grieve. The specialist explained to me that by 40 approximately 50% of your eggs are defective, which is why such a high rate of miscarriage. That sounds depressing but the fact that you can get pregnant is a really good sign. In my mind I just had to give each bean the best chance I could. I got pregnant with DD2 when I was 41 so definitely not too late, OP. I have fingers and toes crossed for you.

@StepAwayFromGoogle - thank you. I've been reading up about it and managed to find a 300mg per capsule HTN version online. I'll start taking them when they arrive. I really appreciate your support - the bleeding itself is quite shocking, im taking things easy as I must admit to feeling a little light headed with it all. I think over the time it has taken for us to simply conceive we have realised just how much age is a factor, and we have to look at just how positive a result it is that I finally managed to get pregnant. It seems like we might need another holiday as that's when it happened, over summer. Very interesting about the 50% - thank you for suggesting the ubiquinol. You're right - every bean the very best chance.

I found the bleeding shocking too. And it was a constant reminder of what I'd lost. I remember the huge sense of relief when I had a period again because it felt like I was able to slowly move on.
I had the same revelation about age. Conceived DD1 at 38 no problem and then when we tried again two years later it was a whole different ball game.
I'm really rooting for you, OP, hope you get your happy ending.