Should I say no?

[StripeyandConfused]

Been talking to a guy online. He asked on friday could we meet tomorrow. I said yes and he was getting back to me with arrangements. However haven't heard and it's quite late now. If he contacts me tomorrow should I say no or still go?

He is either keeping his options open, is badly organised or has cold feet! Don't be left hanging by a string, if you want to meet him take the lead.

It’s up to you and how keen you are to meet.
If you are, could you drop him a message asking if he still wants to meet up?

No I wouldn't. He hasn't been in touch since asking you to meet?
Why is he the one deciding to meet?
Now you're waiting for him to make the arrangements. Which is probably going to be last minute now.
It seems to be all about him already!

He was just testing you
Make other plans

No he hasnt been in touch since asking to meet. I'm going to swerve it. Online dating is utter crap

Hes been online on WhatsApp aswell

So bloody rude, fuck him!

I thought I was just being precious

YANBU. I had a friend (M) who told me he made arrangements with dates and then doesn't talk to them until the day of the date to keep anticipation/ scarcity creates value. I told him this wasnt a good idea. BUT... it actually worked for him. Ladies loved the anticipation. This person might be keeping options open or is just dating for fun and isn't really that bothered. If it was me, I'd just say "Didn't hear from you so made other plans, thanks for the invite though, take care" and just leave it alone lol just me though

Knobheads

I wouldn't contact him, but I'd be busy if / when he does text tomorrow! A nice breezy "oh, I didn't hear from you so made other plans"

Glad you're not bothering.

People are just rude

@StripeyandConfused what ended up happening

Have you heard from him this morning?

If he does get in touch, I’d ignore his message til the end of the day then reply to “apologise” that you didn’t get back to him but you were busy doing something else. Then move on, life’s too short for flaky people, especially if you know he’s been online in the meantime

No the cheeky sod. Why are they all the same

If he messages I'd ignore it till tomorrow. I can never imagine behaving like that. I'm not sure if some people get a kick out of leaving people waiting around for them or if they're genuinely just ridiculous oblivious about other people.

Ugh,I bet he texts in a few hours expecting you to be sitting there with your tail wagging . Forget him. Was it meant to be a day time meet up or evening?

If he messages I'd ignore it till tomorrow exactly this. If he texts in a while, dont bother replying to say you've made other plans. Leave that for a day or two.

He's hard work already. Don't bother.

I've experienced this. So immature.

Are there covid restrictions on meeting up with other households where you are?

He'll be one of those that's messaging a few different women - probably even copying and pasting the same messages to you all - and then takes his pick out of who has agreed to meet up.

Bin this one off.

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