Should I say no?

[StripeyandConfused]

Been talking to a guy online. He asked on friday could we meet tomorrow. I said yes and he was getting back to me with arrangements. However haven't heard and it's quite late now. If he contacts me tomorrow should I say no or still go?

Because they can. I’m a woman and was never after a serious relationship when young nor looking for marriage and children though I did end up with both. Going in with the not giving a shit attitude to dating served me well, it wasn’t a deliberate it was really just how I felt.

Some people do test potential partners, I know I did.

There is no way I would waste a second on someone that had done that.

If he messages you tomorrow, I would say, "I'm sorry I made plans, because I didn't hear from you."

If he messages you tomorrow, I would say, "I'm sorry I made plans, because I didn't hear from you."

Only I wouldn't include the words "I'm sorry".

Apparently he had a zoom meeting with some friends last night and it got messy. Fuck off mate

Honestly, you're giving this far too much head space. It's disappointing to be sure, but this is often the reality of online dating. Most people you speak to online, you'll never meet in person.

Try not to get invested until you've actually met them in person.

He was rude, but forget him and move on.

I think you should just ignore him now.

You could have avoided elk this and just contacted him yesterday to ask what the plan was?
Sounds like he is hungover now but he could have arranged to meet up later this evening if he wanted?

Bin him

I'm not giving it headspace at all. Message deleted and I'm not responding. I cant be arsed

Good woman. No need to entertain him. Out of curiosity though..what did he say ?just that he had a meeting or did he say he was still interested in meeting today?

He said he had a zoom meeting last night with friends and it got messy. Good for him lol

Flakiness is so unattractive.

Yep

I hope you've got a plan to do something nice with your day op...even if its lazing around

God I bloody hate the dating world, I'm glad you ignored him OP! SOLIDARITY

so he didn't actually cancel? (its not clear), he has just sent one text as an opener?

depends if the original plan was on all day sunday thing? that needed soberness etc. or if it was just a casual meet up sunday evening for a drink, which could have still happened?

i mean its fine to just bin if you want to. But it doesn't seem the worse behaviour in the world. Sure i have said (back in my online dating days) a few times about meeting up Sunday and may have started my Sunday text with "hi, ooof my head", still with the intention of meeting up later for some food etc.

Nah cant be arsed now. The my head is bad text was a way in. I dont want to go now.