AIBU about normal life events?

[FraughtwithGin]

People are born, people die, people get married (or not), people have children.
Why do I get the impression that each of these events is supposed to be "earth-shattering", "devastating" or any other expression you care to thing of?
It is LIFE, get over it! (And if you are under 29, please resist the impulse to photo it and post on social media, many thanks).

These events are huge to the people involved, if not to you. Social media has snooze or unfollow buttons, you should use them if you don't like what someone's posting.

yes it is just life... someone's life... and that's what makes it important to the person its happening to...

Of course they’re huge for the people involved. How stupid and goady do you have to be to think that they wouldn’t be?

Why is it acceptable to post about it if you’re over 29 but not under?

Sure.

Makes sense.

If you have the emotional capability of a teaspoon.

Maybe lay off the gin and social media a little?

@FraughtwithGin

People are born, people die, people get married (or not), people have children. Why do I get the impression that each of these events is supposed to be "earth-shattering", "devastating" or any other expression you care to thing of? It is LIFE, get over it! (And if you are under 29, please resist the impulse to photo it and post on social media, many thanks).

And yet you think MN is entitled to your opinion.

Ironic

Of course people will mark these occasions! They are the few stand out events in the otherwise 30,000 or so days of tedium and drudgery.

@LolaSkoda

Sure.

Makes sense.

If you have the emotional capability of a teaspoon.

You’re being a bit unfair to teaspoons.

Of course those are big events to the people experiencing them! Just unfollow or have a break from social media if it offends you.

I wouldn't expect the whole world to be interested in my big life events but they're still big to me and the small collection of people who really care about me. I'm interested in the huge life events of people I care about too. Isn't that what makes life worthwhile for most of us? If you don't care about anything why bother?

This is very goady. Of course it’s a big deal to the people involved. People should mark/celebrate/grieve life events however they like. Try not to get worked up over it.

Just get over someone you care about dying?

Just treat the birth of your child as a meh kind of moment?

But post goady shite on MN for a bit of attention? - yeah that's fine!

LOL, I have loads of teaspoons, some of which are solid silver.
This was not at all intended to be goady, whatever that is, I just got a little irritate by reactions to a normal event.
Feel free not to comment ;-)

I kind of understand what you mean. Although I see it more in people responding to very common, albeit emotionally difficult situations as though they are unique to them. So of course if you have a baby or a parent dies those ARE significant life events for the person, but they are expected "circle of life" events on a global level.

When events go out of order then it becomes more unusual or shocking. A child dies before a parent, a husband dies 2 days after a wedding, a baby is born after years of loss...

Birth, death, union, separation are important for the very reason that they are life. That's what makes them wonderful or sad. Life is wonderful and sad.

I waste spend time on fb most days, usually on my commute to work. I love seeing updates from people I no longer see IRL.
I posted on fb when both of my parents passed away.it was easier to tell most people in one go (without having to actually say the words which was really difficult)than to wait for people to ask how things were.

These life events are important to people who it affects.

My dad dying at a young age during summer holidays and leaving my 11yo brother in a state that he wasn't able to start high school was pretty devastating to be honest. But I understand that people who don't know us, couldn't give a shit.

But I would at least show empathy and understanding towards people who have lost loved ones instead of saying, 'it's just life, get over it'

You sound like a bit of a knob tbh.

I hope you have some nicer people around you should the shit hit the fan.

What’s the alternative? Going through life without experiencing any emotional highs or lows of any kind? We aren’t robots.

Weird complaint tbh.

Feel free not to comment

Right back atcha babe

Feel free not to comment aka only comment if you agree with me ?

Or just let people live their lives how they want to. We probably only have this one life, might as well make the most of it and actually enjoy your limited time.

My wedding and the birth of my children were huge life events for me. I know they were pretty big events for my mum and siblings, and I think they were of at least a fleeting interest to my in laws and friends. I've been excited and delighted by similar news from my family and friends. It's sad that you've nobody for whom you feel like that.

So, you don't have very much EQ, OP? That's okay.

Ever lost a parent? A lot of people get a little bit about that.

Lot a partner? Ditto.

How about a child? Again. . .

All natural life events. . .

You seem a little bit odd.

Is it really such a stretch of the imagination that getting married and having kids would feel significant to the individuals involved? Maybe don’t use social media or unfollow people if it causes you such personal offence.

Glad you have lots of teaspoons. Unlikely to have many human friends.

My husband committed suicide.
Both of my parents have died within the past 18 months, one after a long illness, one very unexpectedly and suddenly.
I couldn't prevent any of these things. I do not feel responsible for them they are out of my control.
These situations happen to others every day, what is the big deal?