Is hubby being Unreasonable

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I have mentioned this a couple of times earlier but I am not very confident of sending DD to school this year .There is already a high risk alert in my area and the number of cases are increasing .I have diabetes and ds has congenital heart defect ,both are high risk for covid 19 .Ds plays with my neighbors son outdoor with whom we have formed a bubble due to childcare issues .

There has been 7 cases of corona in my child school as well .
Now I have decided everything .I have enrolled in home schooling school .I contacted ds teacher who recommend a tutor who can teach him english and spag .Now obviously ds is a high ability kid and goes to a outstanding school .We have one week left to make a letter to head and dh is today shouting at me that Ds will become a low ability kid if doesn't join school and he is quite upset about about it .Ds is in year 2.

I am just thinking in the larger scheme of things what matters more ?

@Hercwasonaroll

From your post OP I'm guessing English isn't your first language. You'd definitely need to get someone to invest time in teaching him to read and write.

Agreed. And how is it obvious that he's of high ability?

I think, like with many aspects of covid, the actions you take to protect from c-19 will be more dangerous than the virus itself. Your daughter should be with other kids. If you've formed a 'bubble' with the kid next door, and he's at school anyway, your daughter could still be exposed to school germs.

I'd point out, like I do so much on here, that even those people with risky conditions are unlikely to become severely unwell with covid. It's still the minority, whatever group you're in.

Let her go to school, let her live a normal life, don't bring her up in a state of fear.

If your ds health is at serious risk then his education is not the top priority here.

You need another discussion and a for and against list of school versus home schooling.

A "high ability" child won't morph into a "low ability" child simply by missing school. Academic ability is innate.

This is wrong. Intelligence is innate, academic ability is taught. It’s why students are disadvantaged and do not reach their potential, ie are low ability, if they go to bad schools or no school compared to their peers that go to better schools.

@PlanDeRaccordement

Do you really think every child has the same potential ability and the only difference is school quality? That is not the case.

[quote Hercwasonaroll]@PlanDeRaccordement

Do you really think every child has the same potential ability and the only difference is school quality? That is not the case.[/quote]
How can you say that school attendance and quality have no difference in academic ability? History tells us otherwise. When did literacy happen? When we had schools for all boys and girls. When did technological advances happen? When we had Universities.

send him to school

i know how hard that decision must be OP but socially it is better for the kids as well as academically.

i would never home school - im personally very against it for the majority ofkids

Thank you everyone for the advise.

How can you say that school attendance and quality have no difference in academic ability?

Of course they have some influence. But school attendance and quality of school aren't the only determining factors on a child's ability. Not every child has the same capacity to learn. They don't all have the same cognitive function.

Have the school not given you the option of homeschooling with their consent. We are in a tier 2 high risk area where cases are rising fast, half of ds’s school was sent home last week due to positive cases in bubbles. One of the children in his class was previously shielding and the school have authorised absence and arranged work packs for the rest of this year but her place is still available for when it is safe for her to return, would this be an option?

My Granddaughter has been home schooled. She's at university now....

I was home schooled. Please don't do it. It fucked me up to be frank. I had no friends, and when I went to a real school i was bullied because I didn't know how to be a real kid and i was different to them.

@Wejustdontknow
My son has been offered a part time schooling option ,due to his health condition but of course not no school at the moment

@jennie0412 as I mentioned it a very temporary thing , I will send him back once we are in stable condition to send

*Hercwasonaroll

From your post OP I'm guessing English isn't your first language. You'd definitely need to get someone to invest time in teaching him to read and write.*

This is the polite version of what I was thinking. I would send him to school.

@Alexandernevermind
Thank you but my post is not asking your suggestions about whether should I send him to school or not .
We are discussing real health issues here .People are dying and moreover 5 children died earlier in the pandemic who had some underline health issues .If only , you keep yourself updated about the statics .
@LindaEllen I absolutely understand your concern but we are in a pandemic and its not a joke specially for people who are high risk .Are you clinically vulnerable by any chance ? It would definitely put another prospective of how you see things .

I agree that you should speak to a doctor. If your child is in a category that would have been shielding then missing a year of school will.do him very little long term harm. Ask your doctor what the level of risk is for your child's condition. In my opinion, if my child carried a significantly higher than average risk of complications I would be keeping him at home.

All this thinly veiled nonsense about English not being your first language is a load of bollocks, if it isn't your first language yet you write fluently in it then you are far more of a linguist than the vast majority of brits so don't listen to that bollocks. In many countries a year 2 child wouldn't have started formal schooling yet. You are so polite not to be offended by the arrogance of those comments.

On balance I'd probably keep him off and arrange some private tutoring and the odd playdate if we could afford it.

www.aa.com.tr/en/latest-on-coronavirus-outbreak/5-children-have-died-of-coronavirus-in-uk-study/1888903

diabetestimes.co.uk/a-third-of-covid-19-deaths-in-england-linked-to-diabetes/

please kindly read these 2 articles

@Feelingconfused2020

Thank you for your kind words .I have anyways made up my mind but the reason I posted was I was very much offended by the behavior of my hubby .

Your husband.

What is 'spag'? I don't remember mine being taught anything called that at school.

In your place I'd keep your child at home for now, you cannot risk infection.

@jessstan1 spelling punctuation and grammar

Thanks jennie, I honestly didn't know that (thought it might be something to do with cooking.....).

I’m in the US and we are lucky that our state gave us a choice of attending school or school provided remote learning. 50% chose remote learning including our family.

My daughter has a congenital heart defect and her cardiologist said she’s not high risk. However she is in the shielding category due to other conditions. I’m surprised your cardiologist hasn’t been able to give you any advice.

You are way over reacting OP.