AIBU or is Mumsnet particularly hysterical?

[hellisotherpeopleandhorlicks]

In the last twenty minutes I've read threads on societal collapse, civil unrest, war all breaking out in the next year. I've seen people hysterically telling an OP to leave a husband or slept in accidentally, and others encouraging people to panic buy for Brexit while disputing the fact that what they are encouraging is in fact panic buying.

Is Mumsnet generally a good representation of people's views in your circles do you find? Or do people post their true feelings here, ones they wouldn't speak out loud do you think? IE anxieties about things like civil unrest?

I'm just curious really as to whether people read threads on mumsnet and feel that they're a bit OTT and scare mongering or whether they think they're a good representation of the general vibe in their area or circle?

YABU for using the term hysterical in the first line.

(Hysteria is an outdated medical concept and a term of abuse aimed particularly at women, Use something less misogynistic if you want to be critical)

@herecomesthsun do keep up - this is now page 5

You get the extremes on MN.

People are either completely overwrought or preternaturally phlegmatic, unremittingly smug or beset by self-doubt.

The phrase "off its tits" springs to mind fairly frequently

[quote AuntieJoyce]@herecomesthsun do keep up - this is now page 5[/quote]
Took the words out of my mouth. RTFT @herecomesthsun, we established ages ago that it isn’t misogynism.

@Pelleas

I've noticed that people expressing a strong opinion often get called 'hysterical' by people who don't agree with them. It's an easy way to invalidate an opinion - it conjures up an image of a screaming, irrational woman, not to be taken seriously.

Although is this not the exact point the Op is raising?

Although the Style and Beauty threads are often helpful and interesting, and the posters usually kind.

The one I see the most is 'your DH is a a terrible person, leave him immediately' or something along those lines in response to Op saying her DH went to a football match instead of going to the cinema with her

Yeah, you haven’t seen that, or anything much like it though have you? If you have could you link to it please?

Although is this not the exact point the Op is raising?

I didn't read the OP in that way - I read the OP as suggesting Mumsnetters are prone to over the top opinions/reactions.

Histrionic? Whatever - I only read it for entertainment value and it has been very boring of late. Bring back mothers-in-law and CFs!

@Whatisapension

You should have seen the recent fabric softener thread OP, tops all of the ones you have mentioned

I was just about to post and say the same! the over the top ridiculous responses were a joy to behold, and what is with the capital letters all if a sudden?, particularly the word VILE, maybe people have just been cooped up to long, but yes OP the completely over the top reaction has really ramped up recently.

I see your point OP.
This is sometimes fun and amene or really helpfull and supportive.
Other threads are like a paralell universe that you want to exit as soon as you got into it!

[quote AuntieJoyce]@herecomesthsun do keep up - this is now page 5[/quote]
Ah. I didn't get past the 6th word.

I'm afraid it is misogynistic.

Look it up.

Try using a less misogynistic term to describe Mumsnetters, than hysterical and I might think you’ve a valid point.

Oh do get over yourself. Some MNetters are hysterical. It's a perfectly valid word. Why do people have to hijack threads with their own agendas? Don't bother replying to me by the way - I'm moving on.

I know what misogynistic means @herecomesthsun

But please accept my most enthusiastic contrafibularities on your superlative grasp of the English language

There's real life and then there's life within the MN bubble where people refuse to answer the door unless they're expecting visitors and call 101 if they spot a man they don't know sitting in a car on their street.

My favourite thread in recent times was one where the OP found a phone charger that neither she nor her DH recognised. The number of people who rushed to advise it MUST belong to her DH who was obviously having an affair and hiding a burner phone was mind boggling. Any posters who tried to gently suggest there might be an innocent explanation and her husband was probably blameless were shut down, called naive or accused of being a 'cool wife'

It's hardly hijacking a thread to critique the title of the thread. I object to the misogyny. You are 150 or so years out of date with this.

Fair cop.

Unless they state they are male or female i would have no idea and would say there are posters who are hysterical on here regardless of who is female or male.

Sure you can pick up sometimes by what they say but I use hysterical for posters in general regardless

I think it is increasingly attracting rather hysterical people. And immature people who seem to struggle to make decisions, to deal with basic vicissitudes of life, small things can set off extraordinary amounts of 'frothing'. And so much validation being sought. Nothing like my experience of real life.

I think that people who post are often the ones who have really strong feelings on the subject, so it's much more dramatic than real life. Real life is watered down by lots and lots of people who aren't bothered/feel it's best not to get involved/aren't really sure how they feel about the issue.

cool wife

Oh my god. i hate that one. Because I am not a paranoid mess, I am a cool wife🙄
I learned to very quickly exit threads with this on.

The word misogynist is over used on here, and generally used to describe words people don’t like because they hit a bit close to home.

In fact the posters calling the OP and needing to respond “don’t use such misogynistic terms”rather than actually responding to the thread make the OP’s point beautifully.

In fact I’d say that “don’t use such a misogynistic term” is in itself a pretty hysterical response....

@GlummyMcGlummerson

IIRC the word "hysteria" is female specific and the words derives from female reproductive organs (think hysterectomy etc). Hysteria was once a diagnosed condition way back when for women who were too outspoken, wouldn't follow rules, sometimes they wanted to do things that men would do, like write books. It was basically a diagnosis to send the message to women that they need to STFU. And these women were imprisoned for life in asylums. There's a very sad, deeply hidden history behind it.

All of this.

Look it up

I did. And posted the dictionary definition. No hint of misogyny.