To ask if you remember all of your babys birth

[StrawberryBlossom234]

I had a baby a year ago and before thre pushing stage all I remember is being on the birthing ball screaming for an epidural, I dont remember how or why I got back onto the bed and that I never got the epidural and my partner is useless with memory so can't gu e me an answer either. Please tell me im not the only one thats forgotten some of the things

No coz I wasn't actually there. I hear it was very uneventful and last 2 hours.

I have 5 - the oldest is in his 30's and I remember all sorts of details of the births. I remember the names of the midwives, what I was wearing, all sorts of little details. I remember my husband saying "Welcome to the world xxxx) to each of our children.

I also remember saying and doing some rather inappropriate things!

I remember every detail of all of my three births and my youngest is now 23.

The only thing I don't remember is the pain. I know it hurt, at times a lot, but I can't remember exactly how it felt. Thank goodness.

I remember. Can't forget that pain...ever

20 years ago my first DC was born.

I remember every single gory detail. All three of them.

Had a C section and remember all of it. From arriving at the hospital embarrassingly early, to getting lost finding the right wing, to making jokes in the waiting room outside theatre with my butt hanging out, to the exact feeling of them hoovering the excess fluids out of my uterus after handing a smurf-looking goop covered thing to my husband.

In recovery, they started telling me important stuff that I couldn't focus on because they'd just given me pethidine and I just wanted to tell them I loved them and thanked them for giving me such a previous gift.

Then I thought the feeling had come back in my legs so tried to get a shower and have a wee but I fell over because my toes were still numb. I needed to have a new seal tape on my incision because I was pouring blood everywhere.

Was out 24 hours later.

I had a quick labour and thought I remembered most of it, then we were looking through pics of when she was born (she's just turned 1) and I only then realised I had a BP band on. Asked DH if I'd had it on the entire time and he said "of course, they almost didn't let you in the birthing centre as your BP was high, they monitored you the entire time you gave birth". Didn't have a clue!

I remember every minute for both DC.

Unlike my 'D'H who fell asleep for a while there (for both DC).

I remember every second of them both, certainly have a clearer memory than DH. Wish I could forget just how awful it was. Gas & air with DC1 (only towards the end) and no pain relief with DC2.

Yes, but both were lovely planned sections so I wasn't tired or in any pain.

Don't worry OP, I can't remember it all either.

I recall clearly the first 10 hours labour but then exhaustion and drugs meant I don't remember the next 10 or the birth at all. I didn't know I had a ds until 9 hours later when I woke up.

I had an emergency C section and can't remember anything. I also couldn't remember when I finished work for maternity leave or where we had been on holiday a few months before. The doctors were quite concerned and I had to have a brain scan the next day. I assume it was trauma. Several years later, we were on holiday, and I could suddenly remember being there the year of his birth - weird.

It isn't necessary to remember everything, and your memories willl fade even more with time.

I wrote birth stories when I had my babies, I could feel my memories fading and wanted to capture the events.

I remember my 4th baby better than the others. I can still tell the story of the other 3 , but I guess with my last little one born in 2018, the memory is still fresh in my mind from start to finish. 32 hour labour, oh gosh.

I had a totally unmedicated (no gas and air) v positive birth with DS1 and still couldn't remember most of it. I agree that we are biologically programmed to forget most of the details

I had two emergency C sections and remember all of it - every damn second. I had awful pregnancies, awful childbirths and as soon as I recovered after my second I removed my fallopian tubes so I could never get pregnant again. Best day of my life.

Yes I can, I had a very straight forward labour and was 8am when I arrived at hospital, went to 10 very quickly and was able to start pushing. The final contractions were intense so I had gas and air but laid off it a bit in the pool. If we have about her I will try to do it without any drugs.

8cm!

No, can only remember snapshots. The pain made me borderline delirious. No pain relief and quick labour so very intense.

I don’t want to remember! But as others have said you can ask for a debrief if it’s bothering you.

I remember bits of mine. 26 hours, induction. I remember thinking I wanted to marry the anaesthetist when I got an epidural 15 hours in, then promptly falling asleep because it had finally stopped hurting enough to fall asleep.

I remember crawling up the bed when they had to manually turn Ds's head, I remember being violently sick and I remember getting stitches but not much else, and even then it's all a bit hazy.

Protective mechanism I think for me as the only pain relief I had was epidural and a diclofenac suppository after ds was born while they were checking for tears.

Reading this, I'm wondering if I just have a crap memory compared to other posters? I sort of remember labour as a montage of disconnected snapshots but if I think about it that's also how I remember my wedding day, where there was no pain or trauma at all! I had a wonderful wedding day but can look at the photos now and think 'oh, I forgot about this bit' or 'oh of course, she was there'. I don't have a continuous unbroken memory of labour, just highlights/lowlights, but thinking about it there isn't any multi-hour period of my life that I do have a continuous unbroken memory of in the way that some people are describing 'remembering every minute'

My births are the only events were I do have a continuous detailed memory of the event. Like you say my wedding day is just snapshots and blurs. So for me the fact I found the first so traumatic is why I remember it so clearly. I really would prefer to forget. I remember every single detail. It’s excruciating. My second (ELCS) was not traumatic but I remember it very clearly I think because I was so traumatised from the first one and I was scared even though that was a nice experience. Brains are weird!

I had same as you op and remember most of it.

I remembered every detail of DS1’s birth, probably because of all the baby groups and new mum friends where everyone tells their birth story in graphic detail to each other. (For some reason)
I didn’t really do that with ds2 so my memory of his birth is rather more hazy. I went in for an induction at 8am and didn’t have him until 10pm but can’t really remember much of the day.

Without looking it up I couldn't even tell you what day of the week they were born or what they weighed.