You’ve Got Mail - AIBU

[JJsDinerWaffles]

Hi everyone. So, I’ve been messaging a guy via email for a while and we agreed to meet a while ago. (Because it’s the 90s and we don’t know about online safety yet.) He didn’t show up and I was heartbroken.

I’ve just found out who the guy is! He’s the guy who put me out of business (the beautiful bookshop my dear dead mother owned), PLUS he found out who I was and lied to me about it (or just didn’t tell me.).

BUT because it’s New York and it’s beautiful and we have this lovely jazzy soundtracks to our conversations - plus he brought me daisies (even though he barged into my house when I was ill and asked him not to) AIBU to think he’s TOTALLY changed - he’s the Darcy to my Elizabeth and we’ll live happily ever after?

I mean, he wiped my tears with an actual handkerchief! If that isn’t the sign of a changed man I don’t know what is.

@Emmelina

LTB, obvs.

It wasn’t my favourite film, honestly.
While you were sleeping though, I’ve watched more than I can count. We even went to Florence for our honeymoon

I watch that every Christmas. I absolutely love it.

Excellent OP - have you ever read the take-down of Love Actually - it is in a similar vein, DD and I read it and we will never be able to see the film again without shouting at it.

Same! Someone cleverer with words than me should post an AIBU from Emma Thompson's character's point of view. Or, for heartbreak of another kind, Laura Linney's.

And he took all the garnish, the bastard.

But why would anyone buy a book when they can’t pick it up and flick through it first?

This "online" thing won't last. It's just a fad, you mark my words...

Yabu because he shows up with a cute dog so all is forgiven.

Someone putting their handkerchief on your face, are you mad?

Not sure I liked this when it came out, even! Will have to watch it again and enjoy being really annoyed.

@ODFOx

Sleepless In Seattle (which I love btw ): a frankly deranged woman has an emotional affair with a figment of her own imagination, stalks a stranger across a continent. Grooms a child to run away from home, dumps her admittedly dull fiancé and then gets her man who, on top of the Empire State Building, miraculously changes from all round good egg and kindly father to simpering idiot. You've got mail: same cast but psycho/good egg reversed and leading lady has had unfortunate Botox.

To be fair to the Meg Ryan character, Annie, she doesn't groom the son at all. It is her friend, Becky, who sends the letter about the Empire State meeting. Annie decides she's being mad about trying to meet a stranger, and throws it away. Becky takes it and sends it. Tom Hanks also dismisses the letter as deranged. It is the kid who decides he wants to meet Annie. He writes back. Annie dismisses the idea of meeting up at the Empire State Building. She goes, because during her break up chat with Walter, he says they could be waiting there for her, and then she gets "the sign" (ESB lit up with a heart).

All of the 1990s rom com output put the women's movement back about 50 years. I'm a sucker for anything featuring a New York backdrop, though.

The garnish! I'd forgotten that. Bastard.

I love that film.

This is the most confusing post I've ever read? So have you met him or not?

@Justwingingmotherhood

This is the most confusing post I've ever read? So have you met him or not?

Were all the replies also confusing? 🤣

It’s ok op it’s Tom Hanks, he is the perfect man just forgive him. Haha

@Justwingingmotherhood it’s a joke. She’s taking about a Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan film.

Ah but Brinkley!

@Justwingingmotherhood

This is the most confusing post I've ever read? So have you met him or not?

Have I met him? Well I thought I hadn't but he was there all along under my nose, annoying me and bringing out the worst in me as all the best suitors do.

@SymphonyofShadows

And he took all the garnish, the bastard.

This is a good point. Caviar as a garnish? In my New York spring handkerchief induced haze I had forgotten this. Forget destroying everything my mother worked for and all my childhood memories - perhaps THIS is the dealbreaker. Time to get my ducks in a row.

@WhatWouldJKRDo

YABU because his dog is adorable and you get to be mates with Steve Zahn. And Birdy is hilarious.

I know it’s SO wrong but I still love it.

That is true! I wonder what Steve Zahn (George?) and Birdy will think if my new relationship? I bet they'll be THRILLED!!

It was my birthday last weekend and I picked YGM as my birthday-night-film-choice. It was one of my faves as a teen, and I still really enjoyed even if I'm a bit "wtf" about some aspects now. Interesting how she was so embarrassed admitting to her colleagues that she'd met a guy online and now it's so normal.

"That caviar is a garnish!"

Six Days, Seven Nights is another one from that era that's pretty dated but still worth a watch.

YABVU.
Bookshop man has a very cute dog. And at the end when he chases after said dog, your eyes meet and he does that self deprecating shrug. Then you say something along the lines of “I wanted it to be you.”
And a million women across the world sigh with satisfaction and wipe away a happy tear.

The dog is definitely the best thing about the relationship. Not the boat though. I did say I could never be with a man who has boats...

No she was so pathetic!, Also in the final scenes she leaves the house for a date without a key, bag, money .. nothing. It’s always annoyed me!

It's his hot as hell voice, it makes you miss all the read flags. Let's be honest lots of us have ignored big flashing red lights for superficial reason.

I hate all these types of film. Especially pretty woman. So sexist.