To hate having to share everything

[ItWasButIsNot]

For some reason my "D"P thinks anything that is mine is for family use/consumption. Whilst I'm fairly relaxed generally about sharing there are certain things that piss me off. The main one is my pillow. It's mine. It is shaped to me. I probably need to replace it but I love that pillow so much I imagine it'll go once I'm dead. Why can't I have one sacred item (pillow) and he respect my bloody wishes not to use it. It probably seems petty but after my favourite foods are inhaled (no appreciation!) or my razors used on his face or even my new toothbrush (thankfully I had another) I just want my pillow to be mine and not have his smelly head on it. It royally pisses me off. AIBU?

I do wonder how some MNers ever manage to have sex, when they think that their Dh ‘leaning against’ their pillow is ‘disgusting and unhygienic’!

It certainly was, in my ex's case. One of many reasons he's an ex. Hi hygiene was awful, especially towards the end.

Do they give his willy a good going over with Dettol and a Brillo pad before it’s allowed anywhere near them?

I wanted basic hygiene, and he couldn't wouldn't even wash his dick regularly. Believe me, it wasn't nice being expected to give a BJ when he hadn't washed his dick, sometimes for a few days.

My cat sits/sleeps on my pillow if left unattended, despite having numerous warm and cosy little places to sleep. Whits cat hairs in my hair is not a good look !

@positivelynegative

Leave him because he takes your pillow!?!

Perhaps a little hyperbole...

Not sure about that, MN seems to be removed from RL

I'm not repulsed by him but I have bought more pillows so he can have as many as he likes. I have told him not to use my pillow, even hidden the pillow when I get up so he can't use it. I thought we had got somewhere (I repeatedly tell him not to use it!) as it did stop for a while. Now he is back to his pillow stealing ways. I can't explain the rage but I guess it is akin to your sibling taking your favourite Barbie and putting stupid clothes on her that you hate. He knows it is my pillow but uses it any way.

I might start messing with the precious garage for fun. Yet that will just be seen as spiteful. Argh.

DH knows to keep his hands off my pillow. I had to make that clear on day 1. Took a few reminders, but he got it eventually.

Smother him with the pillow and bury the body under all your stuff he used.

He has no concern for you or your belongings.

You asked him not to take your pillow several times and he still does it.

Not sure whether I’d like to stay in such relationship where I wouldn’t be able to have my personal things tainted by somebody else.

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER

I do wonder how some MNers ever manage to have sex, when they think that their Dh ‘leaning against’ their pillow is ‘disgusting and unhygienic’!

Do they give his willy a good going over with Dettol and a Brillo pad before it’s allowed anywhere near them?

I said that drool was disgusting and unhygienic.

I don't like people's faces on or against MY pillow because it is the thin edge of the wedge when it comes to facial bodily fluids.

But by all means you just lie there in your partner's sweat, spit and snot if you like.

Each to their own.

Just tell him that you used “his” razor to shave your legs, pits and other bits.....and then he should be focussed on a two-way dialogue with you 😂