To not stay at boyfriends again

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We both are in our twenties and don’t live together, still live at home as we’re saving and don’t want to rent etc.
Been together ages, everything is perfect etc.
Boyfriends mum doesn’t own a dryer and is always cold which means the heating is constantly on full blast.
Not too bad in the summer surprisingly as they have air on etc, but as the winter is coming and his mum loves to be warm and clothes can’t be on the washing like the heating will be put on full blast overnight which I can’t stand!
I’ve not slept a wink all night, I’m not even that hot tbf I think it’s more the way it heats up the air. I like fresh air and find the house generally really stuffy. It’s well insulated and lots of carpets etc.
It’s been a problem for a while but I’ve tried to get over myself, boyfriend knows I find it uncomfortable but we’ve always joked more than anything.
But it’s now 6am and I haven’t slept a wink.
WIBU to not stay anymore for this sole reason? It all sounds so silly but I’m bloody knackered!

Drying clothes indoors with windows closed creates a lot of condensation, and leads to mould. I have a condenser tumble dryer, and have to empty the tank after each use. I once measured how much water there was after drying a wash load.

Three pints
Three pints of water. With no ventilation where is this going?

And yes, of course you can switch radiators off, even those without individual thermostats.

Drying clothes on radiators doesnt take all night, a couple of hours at most. Cant you persuade her to turn the heating off when the clothes are dry?

Ginfordinner; that's why the mother has the heating up high when drying clothes! Drys them quickly and keeps the house free of damp.

If she's got an old fashioned CH system you may not be able to turn off the radiators individually. If you do try (by turning them off with a pair of pliers) then they can leak all over the floor.

I've just moved out of a house very similar...

@ReneeRol

Ginfordinner; that's why the mother has the heating up high when drying clothes! Drys them quickly and keeps the house free of damp.

But you still need some kind of ventilation for the damp to go somewhere.

Suggest to his mum that she buy a dehumidifier And airers for drying clothes instead of overnight central heating. Would be far cheaper to run and much more pleasant. If you were feeling generous you could buy it for her.

I get you completely - I am ready to kill DH if he leaves the heating on overnight - I get too hot and dry (and don’t always know that is the cause until the morning£.

Yanbu. Sleep is essential and this would drive me mad.

They lived together when OP was a student so they know they can do it successfully.

Yes to heated airer from Lakeland, always raved about on here and it can live in the spare room, or tumble dryer if there is room in the house somewhere. I have a Beko condenser sensor so it stops drying when it senses the clothes are dry. It was £260.

Is no one reminded on the Seinfeld episode where they visit Jerry's parents in Florida and Lorraine can't sleep as they have no air conditioning on, in Florida?

I sympathise, my Dad had the heating and fire on in July. He was so used to travelling to very hot countries for work he really felt the cold. We used to sing Club Tropicana all the time as teens.

Buy her an electric drying frame (Lakeland). They cost very little to run. I couldn’t bear to have heating on at night either. But at the end of the day it’s her house I suppose. Couldn’t your boyfriend ask for the heating not to be on at night.? He could say it stops him from sleeping?

Just don’t stay them. Having the heating on like that doesn’t sound healthy! I hate stuffiness too. We never intentionally have the heating on at night but odd times we’ve left it on by mistake and I wake up feeling very ill! So yeah I get what you mean. It’s her house though. If you don’t like it, don’t stay!

My granny’s the same. I’ve been in there and it’s been sweltering with the heat! Don’t know how people can stand it!

If you try a couple of things and still aren't sleeping comfortably, I'd just tell your boyfriend (and maybe his mother, too) that you're having trouble sleeping there. It's understandable, and sleep is necessary! You've taken all you can of the stuffiness. It's up to him where he chooses to sleep, but you're not duty-bound to stay at his place.

The only reason I'd hesitate to explain exactly why you can't sleep would be if I worried she'd think I was complaining or hinting for her to change how she runs her own home.

Can't you just open the window in the room you are in
We live in a house that keeps very warm even without heating on in winter we have all radiators except towel rail on min and ds sleeps with window open as its cool
So turn down radiator in your room and open window

Alternatively if there is launderette near by could you offer to take some there to dry , not exactly an exciting date night though
Unusual to not be able to turn rads down often you have one or two that you cant'

Anyone considering the lakeland heated dryer should check the Ebay Lakeland Outlet first