To not want a cleaner?

[Pumpertrumper]

DH is chomping on the bit to get cleaners again and I just don’t want to. Here are my reasons;

• Covid (don’t love the idea of strangers in the house)

• I’m on Mat leave so will be here. Don’t want to have to go out at set times as have some morning sickness and DS in tow.

• DS screams at strangers (it’s awfully embarrassing I’m doing all I can but he was a lockdown baby)

• DH works shifts which often clash with cleaning meaning he’s sleeping upstairs and they can’t clean the master bed, or he’s on a day off and grumbles about being disturbed.

• Me having to run around on the morning they’re coming cleaning up gross personal stuff like half eaten food, nappies and dirty pants, whilst DS shouts at me.

• £150 per month we can afford but do not need to spend (DH May be without work soon but ample savings).

I keep the house as well as anyone with a baby can. I had a cleaner come to see the place last week who described it as ‘pretty good really’ it’s clean but maybe a bit messy. DH wants the house kept to a higher standard.

Hoovering/mopping several times a week kinda thing. He works insane hours so can’t do it himself, so he wants the cleaner. I’m happy enough in my filthy hovel jokes and can’t do any more than I’m currently doing myself but I don’t want a cleaner.

Happy to be told AIBU but would love another opinion???

I think yabu.

Yes you have to run around cleaning up a bit in the morn but it’s a god send to me...why waste precious time mopping the floor and cleaning bathrooms when you can get someone else to do it for you?

Balancing a full time wfh job and childcare was killing me and my oh. I was SO relieved when the cleaner came back it was like a weight lifted from my shoulders.

Try it!

@SpaceOP they can be pricey alright, I had to push for one too. I got one of the "cheapest" ones on Amazon. What I will say is, mine works on carpet too and I was SHOCKED the first time I emptied my dirt collector after using it on my bedroom carpet. The dust it picked up was UNREAL😳. And make no mistake my carpets are hoovered REGULARLY by both a dyson AND Miele, both expensive hoovers??!! Couldn't believe that this small thing picked up such dust.

Honestly OP you have a baby under 6 months and you're pregnant. Take the help.

Running around after a non mobile baby is hard. Running after a mobile over having pregnant is even harder, and doing it with a screamy newborn is a nightmare. It's understandable you aren't on to of doing it all alone as DH is "too busy" so it's absolutely fair he essentially gets someone covering some of his duties.

Covid unless you're isolating, I'm not sure someone in your house CLEANING puts you at more risk than general life

I’m on Mat leave don't book anything early so you have plenty of time to get ready, but you presumably are taking DS out for a walk etc at least once a week?? Even with morning sickness, it won't do either of you any good locked up in the house every day

DS screams at strangers all the more reason to safely expose him to faces

DH works shifts he's a grown man, he can suck it up. How often does his shift pattern repeat?

Me cleaning up gross personal stuff like half eaten food, nappies and dirty pants do you currently live in a sea of dirty nappies and pants? Get a nappy bin, take your underwear off near the washing basket, pick up plates of half eaten every time you go into the kitchen. And she's coming once a week / fortnight, not every morning at 6

£150 per month so about 10 hours a month? I'd cut it down to fortnightly and if DH kisses his job, you stop using her

Your baby will be in the floor crawling etc soon, floors need mopping, nappies need moving etc. DH sounds like he has a good plan

Had a cleaner for years. I work from home and am now retired but due to ill health we have kept the cleaner. She doesn't do the bedrooms only the family bathroom and landing up stairs but she does all the ironing with is great, as I can't manage it. I sit in the kitchen doing work from the kitchen table when she is here and move to the sitting room when she does the floor. Very doable.