To think this is rude

[Chloe165]

I was talking to my partner about some news on a topic that I’m interested in (he isn’t), just a brief passing comment and he responds with ‘oh seriously you aren’t going to talk about that again? You know yesterday when you were talking about it and I didn’t answer it was because I don’t care’. He said it in a half joking way but I am so angry, I just told him how rude it was and mentioned that he somethings mention things that I wouldn’t particularly care for but because he does I ask questions to be a respectful partner. He’s now in a sulk about it because I’m angry. Aibu to think it is rude?

YANBU. Do it back to him for a taste of how own medicine. You don't have to be reasonable with twats if they're not being reasonable to you.

What are some subjects he bores you with?

A little rude yes, but not out of order if you keep talking about this thing and he has no interest in it.

Dh and talk about something a couple of times maybe that the other is not into but no more really otherwise we mutually tell the other off for it as in a joke thing, I dont want to hear lots about the same thing so I won't do it to dh if I know he is not into it

I think yanbu, but I think it’s silly to fall out over. Next time, you could try to explain what has bothered you and why (easier said then done when you’re annoyed though I know!)

No I don’t think it was all that rude. DH often tries to talk to me about football and I tell him I am not interested. I would be nice if he stopped talking to me about football, perhaps you could try not to talk about things you know he isn’t interested in.

Not rude at all. He was honest - he wasn’t interested in what you has to say. Get over it.

It’s literally mentioning something in the news. I spoke about it in the last two days but for god knows how long prior. I just feel that as a couple sometimes it pays to be respectful when mentioning something not to just cut me off.

He was rude but at the same time you can’t force him to reciprocate your asking of random questions, you know he has no interest in it. Just stop asking him the questions

When he’s banging on about whatever he likes

I think it’s rude. It’s ok not to be interested in a topic but there’s no need for rudeness and what he said (about why he didn’t answer before) sounds rude and dismissive. It also sounds a bit belittling and patronising.

I'd hate to be in a relationship where jokey comments weren't allowed! DP and I will say things like that but we have a very good, stable, loving and respectful relationship so it wouldn't be taken with offence.

Just make sure you have boundaries of your own, I have huge people pleasing tendencies so it does take a huge effort from me not to just go with the flow if something is tedious, but others don't seem to have that problem!

If it was Minecraft, then YABU. I can't take any more conversations about Minecraft.

This is a fundamental question in relationships. Do you take and want to take an interest in all the things you are each interested in? Or do you just leave each other to get on with things that aren't interesting to you both, and come together when something interests you both? Either can work in a happy relationship, but you need to be on the same page.

On whether biting your head off for a passing remake was or wasn't rude, then yes, it was.

I've definitely said "I'll be honest, you're really boring me" when DH brings up a topic repeatedly that I have zero interest in. It was somewhat rude but when you spend your entire life with someone and know them inside and out then you shouldn't need to be tactful. Honesty is more important. It doesn't sound like "a brief passing comment" if you're talking about it every day.
I'd focus more on yourself. It's not "respectful" to bring topics up repeatedly that the other person has no interest in, it's not "respectful" to pay such little attention to your partner that you don't notice they're contributing nothing to the conversation and it's not "respectful" to get "so angry" about him being honest with you in a jokey (although slightly rude) manner. I don't think you're as respectful as you seem to think.

Imo, he's in a sulk because you've told him that you're not interested in some of the things he wants to talk about.

Depends on the issue.

Have you become a covid obsessive?

Stop pretending to be interested in whatever he is boring you with and accept that he is not interested in what you are boring him with.

Meh. I tell DH I don't care when he tells me about Strava or his bike parts for the ten millionth time.

I think it really depends on what it was. If it was some absolute nonsense you read on the Mail Online that you were still "fumin" about, he wasn't being rude. If it was normal news about something important then yes he was.

Not COVID again?
Really fed up of this. I know it's important to be aware of what's going on but every time I hear that word my heart sinks.

My dp is often telling me about football when he knows I have zero interest. I don’t enjoy it but I look like I’m listening and nod politely. He doesn’t really have many other people to talk about it with so I would feel like a bit of a cow if I told him to stop.

It depends what it is and how much you talk about it, if it's Coronavirus conspiracy/denial/we should just get on with it shit everyday I'd be annoyed too.

Maybe try and find other things to talk about too?

We have a code. 'Interested face number 289' - said in the manner of the 'next customer to till number 4' automated voice if one of us is going on a bit about something.

He could have been more polite about it.

To be fair it took my DH and me a long time to spot when the other glazes over.