Aibu to be annoyed dh wants to go camping with friends?

[StormsDontLastForever]

So we are in the middle of a pandemic, dh announces he is going camping at weekend with friends, no plans to socially distance as they all need to share a car and tent etc. Just an excuse for a few beers! I am not happy and have said that if further restrictions come into place he won't be going (not that I am controlling in any way but he would be putting me and dd at risk)!! But he's basically told me he's going & that's it! Aibu to be p**ed off? He is like a child at times & it's so annoying. He says he's not had the virus yet so basically thinks he's invincible

I'm completely with you OP. If they're sharing a tent/car they can't be social distancing. Get him to self isolate in a tent for a fortnight when he gets back if he's that determined.

I wouldn't be bothered. I'd be glad to see my DH enjoying himself, having some downtime and looking after his mental health. I wish mine would TBH, I worry he hasn't seen friends all year.

YANBU, we're going to be in this mess for a lot longer than we have to be because people think that doing things like this is OK.

He needs to take his own car, have his own rent, and stay 6 feet away from his companions at all times. If he can’t do that, then I would expect him to isolate for 2
Weeks before he comes back into the family home.

Yabu. Let him have a bit of fun. Presumably your daughter is in school or nursery, she is far more likely to catch it there. You sound controlling.

I wouldn't have an issue with this
Surely you can't expect to tell him he can't go

It seems fairly low-key and would probably do more for his mental health than any damage it could do pandemic wise.

Genuinely leave him be.

How the heck are people not seeing the issue, or saying the OP is being controlling? How is it controllibg to be concerned about risk during a pandemic?

Does he have form for going out sur la piste a lot or is it once in a blue moon?

There is another thread about the risk of cancer patients unable to be treated if there are too many COVID cases in hospital, so we need to be responsible.

Is going camping with no social distancing and copious amounts of alcohol, being responsible during a pandemic?

@Throckmorton

How the heck are people not seeing the issue, or saying the OP is being controlling? How is it controllibg to be concerned about risk during a pandemic?

Because you can't reason with people so dense that they can't work out that this is EXACTLY the type of behaviour that will toughen the restrictions they are all so fed up with.

Husband goes in car with other idiots who have obvious disregard for social distancing . Close proximity. Good chance of getting it. Probably mildly or entirely a-symptomatic . Brings it home to you , parents and older relatives. Who end up ill for months or dead.

Selfish selfish wanker.

Well said MynamarisBurma!

We went camping over the summer with friends, other large family groups. It was great fun and a much needed break in the fresh air. I would be encouraging my DH to have a few days to let his hair down right now if it were me. Camping with friends and a few beers seems like a good idea.

I assume everyone who thinks it's a good idea are also ignoring all the rules too. And will be complaining if we are all in lockdown again

Tbh I'm wondering how you caught Covid, OP. & Your H didn't catch it, did he? 'Ironic' comes to mind here. I can understand why he feels ok to go. Maybe just concede. It's probably not worth the argument.

Rule number one in my book is never, ever mess with a persons right to camp. Its bad enough living in a country that persecutes us for sleeping outside in our own land.

@DeeCeeCherry the OP didn't say she has had COVID.

And whilst kids are going to schools, people are going shopping etc. THIS is really the main risk out there is it?

Schools and shopping are necessary, a camping drinking trip is not. SD also happens in shops. And for schools to remain open people should be being responsible to ensure COVID doesn’t get into schools. It is socialising like this camping trip that is causing the rates to rise amongst households, which then take it into schools

Separate cars; separate tents, and drink outside would be a good compromise.

I’m currently having to isolate despite having no symptoms because I apparently had contact with someone who tested positive. I’m pretty pissed off that I can’t work, or even go for a walk for 14 days.

We should all be respectful of other’s rights; it’s not just about the individual anymore.

Sharing a car is the higher risk part.
Sleeping in seperate tents would be better than sharing.
Camping itself is a low risk, well ventilated outdoors activity.

I'd be happy for DH to travel and sleep separately on a camping weekend with friends, other than being jealous as I miss camping. My lumpy back lawn does not hit the spot.

(The last time I broke a rule was getting the DCs to play in a playground in June because my 7yo was becoming rather depressed. Very low risk)

Yanbu,
Can't believe how ma y people think this is OK.
If they were travelling separately. In separate tents and planned to sit 2m apart outside then it would be fine.
What they are planning just isn't.

Thanks to everyone that agrees that ianbu.

Those who suggest I'm controlling, couldn't be any more wrong. It's the fact there are rules in place and they are there for a reason, I don't want to catch the virus and don't want dd to catch it either, we are healthy with no underlying health conditions but my family and elderly family aren't! I have stuck by the rules from the start, even more annoying that I have stuck by it and so many people are now not bothering to follow the rules but they are the ones asking why the case numbers are rising 🙄

Thanks for the input!

"OK, so you're away this weekend, where will you be isolating for the two weeks after that?"

If they are breaking government rules then I agree it is wrong.

If they are allowed to then no I have no issues with the idea

and yes I do think your post is coming over as controlling and I would say the same if you wanted to go away and your husband posted