Aibu to be annoyed dh wants to go camping with friends?

[StormsDontLastForever]

So we are in the middle of a pandemic, dh announces he is going camping at weekend with friends, no plans to socially distance as they all need to share a car and tent etc. Just an excuse for a few beers! I am not happy and have said that if further restrictions come into place he won't be going (not that I am controlling in any way but he would be putting me and dd at risk)!! But he's basically told me he's going & that's it! Aibu to be p**ed off? He is like a child at times & it's so annoying. He says he's not had the virus yet so basically thinks he's invincible

Camping in

October!?!?!

How many friends?

I would be telling him that’s fine, and to stay with said friends when he returns

@SayWhatTheWhatNow yes camping in October!! Any excuse to get drunk!!

@supoort about 3 friends

Well he can stay with them in return and isolate for two weeks...

YABU, we’re allowed to meet up with three friends. Camping outdoors seems one of the best ways of socialising tbh.

He's rather stupid if he really thinks that if someone hasn't had it yet they're somehow immune.

On the other hand, a lot of people are fed up, and I'm not surprised he's reacted badly to you telling him what he can or can't do. Maybe discuss it again, more calmly, focusing on your fears and worries.

If he insists on going against your wishes, I'd tell him that he shouldn't expect any prep help from you, and he won't be getting a warm reception upon his return.

Sounds like a laugh, good on him.

If there are four friends and they stick to the rules then fine.

Not specifically four but I mean a few.

Ask him to get his own, separate tent, at least.

Honestly wouldn't bother me in the slightest

@NailsNeedDoing

YABU, we’re allowed to meet up with three friends. Camping outdoors seems one of the best ways of socialising tbh.

That may be so, but you still have to distance from them, which he has no plans to do if he's sharing a car and a tent.

OP: I'm fed up of other people ignoring the rules, but more to the point they can pretty much just get away with it, whereas I'm miserable because I've been playing by the rules since March, caught covid anyway (!), got a bit of light at the end of the tunnel with the relaxing of restrictions, but now we're in complete lockdown again. Yet some people (like your DH) seem to think they're still cool to do whatever they want.

Make it clear to him you're not happy, and tell him if he goes, he needs to isolate from you for 14 days upon his return.

I was shielded and we’re camping next week, 3 households but under 6 people.

I would expect my husband to run it past me first but I wouldn’t be bothered if he wanted a few night getting pissed and chilling with friends whilst he can, as long as I had the chance for a break too.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. What specifically are you concerned about?

The only issue I have is they aren't social distancing, sharing a car, sharing a tent. I have been very careful through lockdown etc as I want to avoid getting this horrible virus. Wouldnt have any issues if they were social distancing, but the people he is going with are out every weekend at several pubs, house parties etc, with no social distancing. I just think it's silly.

It wouldn’t bother me either. I’ve got a baby and a toddler but we all need downtime with friends. I’d just want a weekend off in return when he’s back! I’ve been out for dinner in groups of six friends, so has he (well the pub.) I don’t get what the issue is unless he’s going abroad or his friends have been exposed recently to covid?

There's no way that's allowed. Even with the rule of 6 you are meant to be Socially distanced so impossible in a tent or car.

Don’t be so mean spirited. Let him have fun without feeling guilty.

I don’t see the issue. I know we’re in a pandemic but you sound a bit suffocating.

YABU, we’re allowed to meet up with three friends. Camping outdoors seems one of the best ways of socialising tbh.

It's this sort of attitude, along with OP's Dh that is the reason the numbers are currently so high. And with high numbers of infections come more deaths.

Tell him he can camp in the garden, alone, until he's quarantined.

He’d be pitching the tent in the garden for two weeks after if it were my DH. I get wanting to spend time with friends but it’s possible to do it safely rather than risk catching and spreading the virus.

So distancing and isolating didn't work for you because you still caught covid anyway?

@LindaEllen