Bit of a backstory for context.. we had been asked by a friend to do a surprise happy birthday recording for another friends upcoming birthday. We did it yesterday after I had woken up from a nap, when I looked at the recording I changed my mind and said I didn’t want that particular recoding with me in my pyjama bottoms & hair sticking out everywhere, I really am not a vain person I hardly ever wear make-up and would happily do the video looking casual . So a bit later we went to do the recording again At my request, but my partner started being silly with the kids asking my sons friend to join in the video I told him to stop being daft and he just lit on me in temper. He stood up and was roaring and shouting at me that I was fat really really fat and even more wrinkly now. I am between a size 8 and 10 and do have a bit of a jelly baby belly which I can hide quite well most of the time. He was shouting and roaring at me in front of the children being vile & nasty about me being old & fat. I’m 5 years older than him. I was actually too scared & embarrassed to argue back and I flinched when he raised his arm to me but he didn’t hit me. Tonight after the two of us have ignored each other since this happened last night he says it is me who causes it I cause the arguments and it’s not his fault. This is not the first time this has happened and every time we argue he gets very personal about my appearance.
He is a gym addict and classes himself as a very good looking and attractive man. Am I being unreasonable when I say he causes these arguments and no matter what’s upsetting hum ie me being short or grumpy with him, he shouldn’t get nasty and personal like that?