Really patronising friend aibu?

[naadddss34]

I live in Newcastle and I live alone.
We are in a local lockdown and aren't allowed to socialise with anyone out of our household or support bubble (if you live alone)
My support bubble is my best friend and she lives with her mum.
She is the only person I see.
My other friend found out we were out for lunch yesterday.
She text "did you really need to go out for lunch? Yes you are allowed a support bubble but don't you think it's a cop out just so people can still do what they like"

I was flabbergasted.
Bare in mind she has a husband and 3 kids so plenty of company.
What do I do for the next few months stay in alone day in day out alone ?
It's ok for her she's not alone
Aibu to think it would be a different story if roles were reversed ?

Take no notice. She's probably wishing she could lose the husband and three kids and have lunch out, too.

How about, 'thanks for your opinion. Duly noted'.

Take no notice. She doesn't sound like much of a friend.

I'm in lockdown in the NE too. Solidarity! ✊🏻

I think a lot of people are really frustrated and least said, soonest mended. She was being unfair but if she’s a friend you want to keep I’d just let it go this time.

She's pissed off that she wasn't invited.

"I wasn't aware I needed your approval."

That's what I'd say.

That's not patronising. That's just being a bitch.

I agree she probably wishes she could have come too! Ignore her OP. You've done nothing wrong.

Joe do
You know she's
Just not lonely I think she sounds
Jealous but just because she's got a husband and three kids dosent mean she's not lonely ...

She's jealous....
I wouldn't be able to resist replying..

Didn't realise you needed her permission to go out. She wouldn't be a friend of mine for much longer with an attitude like that.

Is she very scared about Covid?

Maybe she thinks you could have had lunch at your friends house and taken
Less risk of getting/spreading Covid?

However, you're not breaking any rules,so I'd give it a stiff ignoring if you're happy with what you chose to do.

Jealous

She kept coming out with
"Well you know we all have to do our bit"
Etc etc
When the proper lockdown was on she went to a friends house ???
She has a short memory I think

'easy enough for you to say while you sit at home surrounded by family'

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@fadedred
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Was just about to type exactly what BonosSigh said. Though may have replaced 'bitch' with another choice word.

@naadddss34

She kept coming out with "Well you know we all have to do our bit" Etc etc When the proper lockdown was on she went to a friends house ??? She has a short memory I think

"Ah, so I see you've been appointed Pandemic Head Bitch. Good job, as you were."

Is going to lunch allowed where you are? If so then just text back "It's still within the rules - I don't make them!"

I'd ignore her. Many people with families have no idea how it feels to go through lockdown living alone.

If you're really annoyed, I'd reply with PP's comment of not realising you need approval to go out.

I had a friend leave wine and chocolate on my doorstep the other day. These little things matter even more now. Solidarity.

If you're following the rules, she can't order you about. She's probably at more risk with kids who (probably) go to school and if her husband (and she?) go to work than you having lunch with one person in a socially distanced venue. All she can have is an opinion, and we all have one of those along with that orifice for which people panic-buy loo paper!

I’d respond ‘???’

Sounds like she’s doing her ‘bit’ by judging others and talking down to you.

FadedRed Brilliant!

Ignore her, you're not doing anything wrong and it's really really fucking hard doing lockdown alone