Really patronising friend aibu?

[naadddss34]

I live in Newcastle and I live alone.
We are in a local lockdown and aren't allowed to socialise with anyone out of our household or support bubble (if you live alone)
My support bubble is my best friend and she lives with her mum.
She is the only person I see.
My other friend found out we were out for lunch yesterday.
She text "did you really need to go out for lunch? Yes you are allowed a support bubble but don't you think it's a cop out just so people can still do what they like"

I was flabbergasted.
Bare in mind she has a husband and 3 kids so plenty of company.
What do I do for the next few months stay in alone day in day out alone ?
It's ok for her she's not alone
Aibu to think it would be a different story if roles were reversed ?

I would tell her to fuck off to the far side of fuck and then fuck off some more.

Also in the NE and you're not doing anything wrong!

I'm in the NE too. Who the FUCK does she think she is? Fuming for you.

She is not a friend.

Lock down has been really tough in everyone, but fro, personal, experience living alone Through this has been testing - and lonely.

I am in a support bubble now and to be honest I’m not sure how I would have coped if they hadn’t made that allowance.

Screw your friend - she should be happy that you are getting some company and support, not making snide and stupid comments,

Just because she lives with her husband and children doesn’t mean she’s not lonely. However, YANBU at all. You’re following the law and looking after your mental health which is as important as everything else.

"Fuck you friend who lives with a husband and three children."

The variation on this infuriates me as a live-aloner with no opportunity to be in a bubble.

“It’s so unfaaaair, there are 6 of us so we can’t meet up with anyone.” Yes, there’s six of you - socialise with each other!

Hope all you fellow north easters are doing ok.
I think we are all just trying to make the best of a shitty situation.
Thought of being alone for months is really upsetting.
I have anxiety /depression so this doesn't help

I'd respond with 'opinions are like arseholes dear friend, everyone has one'

Or 'if I throw a stick will you fuck off'

@SunbathingDragon

Just because she lives with her husband and children doesn’t mean she’s not lonely. However, YANBU at all. You’re following the law and looking after your mental health which is as important as everything else.

Yes I agree, even people in a crowded room can feel lonely.

But it’s not the same as being completely alone During a national lockdown and not seeing another living soul for weeks or months.

It’s not a competition about who has it tougher. Yes people with small kids or elderly Or sick relatives have had a really challenging time - I doubt Anyone would Dispute that.

But the support bubble was introduce to try and help the people living alone. This woman is completely out of order, and very unkind, for objecting to OP using it.

When the proper lockdown was on she went to a friends house

I would definitely be reminding her of that! Double standards or what?! Cheeky bitch. You aren’t contravening any rules and most humans need company, so she can stfu!

I’d tell her she’s being rude and is in the wrong - that it’s quite acceptable for a single person to be in a support bubble for company and support. I’d also tell her if she’s so bothered about everyone doing their bit (which you are anyway) why did she go and visit X during the height of full lockdown?

I’d be putting her in her place!

Well, she can go fuck herself up the lala with a brillo pad.

wow! some friend..

I have an acquaintance who was at pains to tell me I shouldn't be seeing a friend (who I am bubbled with - we both live on our own) but once her grandchild arrived, she broke every rule in the book.Hypocrite! This pandemic has brought out the very best or the very worst in people.

Shouldn't make light of cognitive impairment but could you send the following?

Hi, am really worried about the signs of cognitive impairment you're showing. I know if could be stress from COVID lockdown but you've got your DP and DC so doubt it's that as you're better off than any single who is isolating. Have you thought about asking your GP for a cognitive assessment in case it's early cognitive decline. Thinking of you. x

😁 I cannot in all conscience take the magnanimous approbation for the ‘Magical spell meme’ as I copied it from another thread on MN a few months ago.
But I love it.

I think everyone has different opinions on the spread of covid and forget that theirs isnt the only one. She could have been tired/jealous/lonely or all of the above. I have 4 kids and a fantastic dh but haven't seen my family since April and friends since January and every so often it absolutely knocks me down. Hope it gets sorted

I don't see why her possibly being lonely is an excuse. She could have said a) nothing or b) "Did you guys have a nice lunch? Can't wait until we can all catch up together, I'm really missing my friends. Lets do a zoom chat soon."

Disgusting treatment to anyone living alone, but to a friend??!!
I hope you’re ok OP. What an unbelievably awful way to treat someone she’s supposed to care about. I’d actually cut her dead. There’s nothing that suggests she’s worth your friendship. Take care.

What a cow!

Well, it was a dumb thing to say, but some people are not all that great at thinking about things, the amount of illogic around people's interpretation of rules is crazy. And people are stressed.

She may think of support bubbles as things there for help with more mundane aspects of like, but not have thought about the mental/social element much.

I'd just say that I was within the rules and that I didn't think it was useful to be more restrictive than they ask us to be.