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AIBU to stick DH under next doors new patio

65 replies

ipswichwitch · 30/09/2020 16:55

It’s been bloody baltic here all week, and this is the third time I’ve come home to a freezing house because yet again DH has turned the thermostat down so the heating doesn’t come on 🙄 i have arthritis, I need to be warm or I seize up completely, and I work in a hospital so it’s always warm. But because sunny Jim is alright freezing his tits off in building sites all day, I seemingly have to endure it too.

Either I kill him and shove him under the patio next door has made a start on, or he goes to live in the garage where it’s like Greenland all year round. I haven’t enabled voting because basically I’m right.

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Franklyfrost · 30/09/2020 20:11

@AdoraBell I’ve got 3 German Shepherds OP, I’ll send em round.

Genuinely don’t know if you mean to heat op up or eat her dp Grin

MarriedtoDaveGrohl · 30/09/2020 20:14

Are you crazy? Letting him control the heating? Jesus a rookie mistake.

Get straight into the internet and buy a nest smart thermostat and book a boiler man to fit it. Your phone controls it remotely and not your husband.

Dear me I can't believe you let a man take charge of the heating. It never ends well.

Afibtomyboy · 30/09/2020 20:16

You’ve made out it’s jokey

But actually - sign of a shire marriage and a selfish thoughtless husband.

Afibtomyboy · 30/09/2020 20:16

Shite

Iwonder777 · 30/09/2020 20:18

I'd be more discrete.

Too close to home Grin

TooManyDogsandChildren · 30/09/2020 20:18

I foresee a very cheap winter ahead as I have felt permanently overheated since I hit menopause. Summer was torture and the cooler it is the happier I am. Central heating may go on once for half an hour...

Shizzlestix · 30/09/2020 20:18

Get a hive, I think you can adjust them via your phone.

Pyjamaface · 30/09/2020 20:19

Dont ruin your neighbours patio, just set him on fire. He'll burn for ages once you get him going

Leaannb · 30/09/2020 20:21

My friendly,neigjborhood Alligators are looking for a big meal before hibernating

Dawny65 · 30/09/2020 20:22

@Afibtomyboy That's a bit ott to say their marriage s are shite. No one's perfect!

MissConductUS · 30/09/2020 20:28

This thread is starting to sound like an episode of Criminal Minds. Grin

The patio is always the first place the FBI digs up.

RandomMess · 30/09/2020 20:29

I now feel mean that I make the family endure the thermostat being set at 19.5 degrees if 22/23 is optimum Blush

Afibtomyboy · 30/09/2020 20:32

[quote Dawny65]@Afibtomyboy That's a bit ott to say their marriage s are shite. No one's perfect![/quote]
He knows his wife suffers from arthritis. A really painful condition made worse by the cold.
And yet he thinks... bugger it I’m turning off the heat.

Your standards are low!!

Dawny65 · 30/09/2020 20:41

@Afibtomyboy well tbh I forgot she had arthritis, but like my do he could have other redeeming qualities that make up for this thoughtlessness...

lilsquish · 30/09/2020 20:43
Grin
AdoraBell · 30/09/2020 20:45

Well they can do whatever she wants Frankly, if OP wants to snuggle up and share the body warmth they will be happy to oblige. On the other hand, they do have large appetites Wink

Whatcan · 30/09/2020 20:51

This was me with more resentment and you really made me laugh, which feels good. I ended up reading about global warming and got reluctantly convinced I needed to do s thing, so I bought some camisoles and use them as vests and chose for myself to have the heating lower. Extra layers in bed and it’s been easier for me cos I don’t have your health problems but I no longer feel murderous about the control issues. And no YANBU . Stay snug .

PolloDePrimavera · 30/09/2020 20:53

Or any pig farms nearby? Think they get rid of all evidence.

DdraigGoch · 30/09/2020 21:03

Burying him seems rather wasteful. Considering how much calorific value his body must have, a nice pyre would keep you warm.

MarriedtoDaveGrohl · 30/09/2020 21:35

@Shizzlestix

Get a hive, I think you can adjust them via your phone.
Hive! That's the one I was thinking of. No more freezing to death ever..
Mylittlepony374 · 30/09/2020 21:42

YANBU. I truly truly considered divorcing my husband once because I put the heat on & he turned it off because "it's not cold".

buckeejit · 30/09/2020 21:48

Recommend a couple of electric hot water bottles. I wfh & try not to have the heating on as much as I'd like but these are lovely - we take them in the car on the school run too

MrsWicket · 30/09/2020 21:53

I’m sat here completely agreeing with every word OP, in pjs, dressing gown and a blanket. DH is in the sofa in shorts, t-shirt and the fan on...Hmm

Msmcc1212 · 30/09/2020 21:53

Ah. Thermostat wars. We have that.

A plug in electric throw is our answer.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 30/09/2020 22:04

Or any pig farms nearby? Think they get rid of all evidence.

That was my thinking. Just remove any belts and buckles as pigs won’t eat metal and they might identify him.

My ex - note ex - was very much an advocate of wearing every sweater you own rather than turning up the heating. 30 seconds after he left the house each morning, our house was like a wonderful toasty sauna. He didn’t think I knew how to reprogramme the thermostat - oh how wrong he was Grin

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